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http://www.txstate.edu/rising-stars/caitlin-gabor....

And...I just happen to go to school here :)

Can't a guy just be happy -go- lucky and into the finer things in life without having everyone assume his sexual orientation?

Ingenius man, ingenius.

Keep in mind transsexuals aren't necessarily HOMOsexuals. I know how some of these religious people feel about THAT. And I'd like responses from your heart. Not what your church thinks, or your bible thinks..I wanna know what PEOPLE think.

I don't understand how you can tell, given a reaction, if it proceeds by an Sn1 or an Sn2. What "signs" am I looking for to determine which one?

Do you see the stereotypes we equate with male, female, and transgender?

Female got the "soft", the "beauty" the "feminine" and mostly positive things.

Males got some negativity in terms of aggression, and fighting and things like that.

Transgenders get the worst. We're labeled as "eww", and "confused" and "chicks with d**ks" ect. This is society views us.

So..to answer the person who asked about the G L B vs T question, there's your answer to why we dissassociate from the gay community. Not just the GLB community but much of society in general. It's no fun being part of a group that doesn't make you feel empowered or equal.

TRANSGENDER.

MALE.

First three thoughts. NO thinking about it. No editing. This is an experiment people!

FEMALE.

Ready? Go! No editing..it's off the top of your head.

I had asked a question last night about the phrasing, "I accept gays", and said that I felt like it was about gaining approval. A lot of people responded with things like , "you shouldn't be so negative of anyone that is showing tolerance" or whatever.

That got me thinking. There's a HUGE difference between acceptance and tolerance. To me, acceptance relates to equality, but with GLBT's I feel it is still unequal in that you still have this power heirarchy there (you have to be "approved" of by the dominant power or majority). Where tolerance is basically just being tolerated. It's like saying "I don't like it, but I'm willing to be annoyed by it".

Anyone else's thoughts?

I don't know, but hearing someone say "I accept gays", or "I'm gay friendly" or whatever just seems like a control thing to me. It reminds me of an old English king/queen movie where they're tapping the knights with the sword or whatever and declaring their approval or something.

Do straight people really think GLBT's need this "approval"?

and OF the people that answer my questions, what do you like about them? What kind are your favorites?

If so, what was it, and what was your focus or agenda?

Can you give some examples of activities or things you did?

Ok. so I identify as a straight transguy. However, I am heteroflexible. Meaning..I like bio girls, I like post op trans women, and I like tranguys that haven't had bottom surgery. I am homogendered and heterosexual. Meaning, I like a masculine gender, but am attracted to the female sex (as in sex organ).

So, I am crushing on another transguy that I go to school with. He's post op, but hasn't had bottom surgery. He's very passable and identifies as a gay man. I identify as primarily straight. Word has gotten out that we're both interested in each other. So now, I have people in my GLBT student organizations asking if I'm bi or gay, and I'm not. I don't feel that I am because I don't really dig the penis if you get my drift. But I DO like this transguy.

How do I answer this question? I don't want to out him, and I don't want to say "I'm not gay but he is" because that brings up MORE questions. How do I respond to this?

For me, it's gotta be a female personal trainer.. Oh hell to the YEAH.

And I'm not talking about all the drama..just in general. Which would you rather go to?

Me personally, if it WASN'T so full of drama, I'd rather hang out at a gay bar. The music is better usually, the entertainment is usually better, usually better atmospheres, and more thought is usually put into it's interior design.

I'll be honest. I do. Most of my straight friends have kind of rigid, dull, boring lives. I just want to grab them and run with them and tell them to live a little . Throw a little caution to the wind once in awhile. Let your hair down. Be natural, be REAL.

I also notice that I don't have a lot to talk about with them, because our lives are so different. They're all tied down with a spouse, and kids, and a mortgage and all that. I don't. But, as much as they think I'm "missing out", I don't feel that way. I feel like they think they must conform to a society where it's expected to follow in the footsteps of others. Me, I'm a free spirit and I love it.

Anyone else's thoughts?

I can't seem to find too many FTM transguys that are attracted to other FTM's. Where can I find them?