Is it lying if you just don't tell???

If you ask me, the animals are critters she thinks she can control. They offer her unconditional love with very little investment. She doesn't have to compromise or change or discuss her actions with her pets. They are totally dependent. If she didn't tell you about the additions, then that is a lie by ommission! I think you need to confront her about her hoarding of pets. This is an indication of some kind of neurosis on her part. If you can't tolerate the pets physically, then she needs to address this right away! Why are you allowing her to put you through this torment?

As the significant other in this relationship, I would like to make it clear that I do care a great deal (am in love). I had no intention of lying to you (him). I felt it better to omit the information because the problem was being taken care of -- the kittens and the mother and the male were being picked up on Friday to be out of the house. It seems that a compromise is the course of action to take, but now that there have been additional factors, compromise is going to be more about you (him) and less about me -- which at this point is fine, because I am concerned about your (his) well-being). The cats do bring a certain amount of unconditional love to me as I have no children of my own (and have always wanted some). Someone answered that the animals are about control. Maybe, maybe not. They are something to love and receive love in return. It is clear that everyone has a different definition of what a lie is. I had no intention of this being a lie -- simply not saying anything to reduce any further harm and argument. Knowing that you believe it to be a lie, all I can do is apologize again and tell you that no further omissions will occur since you take them as lies.

Avoiding this issue and ignorning me is not the answer -- as it is clear by several of the other answers here. One person answers that we need to talk about it and though we have talked about it on many occasions, this particular incident needs to be rectified and the only way to do that is to talk about it and for you to see the results you are looking for. One person answered to end the relationship if she (I) am not willing to take appropriate action -- it seems that this is quite aggressive, especially considering that there is a willingness to rememdy the situation by other means.

Animals are loyal, never question you, always adore you and are always at the door waiting for you to enter. their love is unconditional. However she's got way too many pets a quick trip to the vets would stop further rebirth and perhaps a child of your own would stop her picking up anymore animals - or have the kids left the nest and she's filling the void.

Did she lie? no actually she didn't but she knows this is a sore point and simply chose not to tell ALL the info'

You need to talk with her calmly about this, and let her know that you both need to try to not get fired up about it all. It isnt exactly lieing, it is hiding/conceling the truth.

To me this is just as bad in a relationship particualy when she obviously knows it was the wrong thing to do. Let her know that it doesnt need a name, wether its lieing or hiding the truth or whatever it was she knows it was wrong and you need to let her know that it upset you and made you feel like you can trust her so you need her to appologize.

About the pets though, she is obviously pet crazy. This is hard when you are alergic so she needs to respect that and you need to work out some way of getting a seperate room for them, keeping them downstairs, in one part of the house only, some way to keep them from being on absoloutley every peice of furnature. You could also look into getting vaccinated against this, they can do it for things like dust mites etc so they should be able to do it for pet allergies too i think? might be a little costly but maybe you two can split the cost...

Bottom line is it is all about compermize, you both need to step into the other persons shoes, listen to eachother more and work out a soloution because just ignoring it is not one. Good luck and i hope it all works out for the best!!!

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yeah if she knows that ure allergic to animals and doesnt seem to care enough to get rid of them then you shoudl when shes at work or something and say well i didnt lie i just didnt tell you because she doesnt respect you enough to keep all of those pets around

yes the call it lying by omission she omitted the truth this is easy how important are you as opposed to the animals tell her its you or the cats or dogs whatever

To lie is to give a false statement. If there's no statement, there's no lie. Still, withholding information doesn't solve problems.

You should ask your girlfriend if she has a breeders liscence. It isn't legal to have that many pets if she doesn't.

i think she simply loves pets.since u claim u love her,u shld support her instead of criticising her.u guys would have to come to an agreement.u both have to step down for each other.tell her how u feel and if she really loves u,she'll be pushed to sacrifice somethings 4 u.

UGH!!!!!!! I'm sorry but that just doesn't sound hygentic. I don't have an answer to your question.....just a yuck to so many pets in one house or is it

you gotta compromise. if you're allergic, and she's determined to keep her pets, i dont think you can continue the r/s with her, unless your allergy will be cure the next day, which is highly impossible.