My 19 yr old sons 17 yr old girlfriend is pregnant?

Well, definitely comfort her and dont let her get too upset. I was 18 when I got pregnant and my bf was 21 years old. After I told my dad, he cussed me out. I got so upset and stressed that I lost the baby. Now he feels very bad. But you should definitely let her stay with you and her bf if that is ok with you. Comfort her and let her know that everyone makes mistakes. Reassure her that everything will workout for the best and that she has you and your family. All you can do is be there for her.

The doctor took an X-ray? Why would he do that? I can't imagine a doctor taking an X-ray of an adolescent girl's belly, on the outside chance that she might be pregnant, which could potentially harm the fetus. Or did you mean an ultrasound? Even so.... What advice would you like? You raised your kids to think premarital sex was OK, and a 12 year old's brain isn't capable of making rational decisions or evaluating consequences. You don't argue with a 12 year old anyway. You need some professional family counseling to help you figure out who's in charge.

If you take her in you'll be doing an awesome thing. The three of them are a family now and they would get to live together, also, she obviously needs a stronger more caring and understanding mother figure in her life, and you would get to see your grandchild more and ensure that her pregnancy goes normally and is a healthy one. Good Luck and Congratulations on your Grandchild!

this happened to my cousin's girlfriend (now wife)

and to the fiancee of a son of a coworker of mine

i would advise you take her in, establishing some ground rules

they may not be ready for marriage, your son and his girlfriend (an understatement probably)

but you can lay some ground rules and let her know you are willing to help her out

FIRST

you may want to speak with the parents and let them know that TURNING THEIR CHILD OUT INTO THE STREETS is not a good idea

you also want to talk to them to let them know that a baby is coming and the entire family needs to support its raising

i am not just talking about MONEY but family, prayer, and love support

you should let them know that they should come to friendly terms...if indeed she intends to KEEP the baby

this is terrible but it happens

and she probably would not have been seeking love through sexual gratification if her parents had been more loving and supportive

in both of the cases i know of the parents of my cousin's wife and my coworker's son's fiancee the parents were terrible

so talk to the girl, see what she and your son intend to do, let them know all the options and what responsibilities and challenges they have now

let your son know that even if he has NO intention of marrying this girl, he should still be kindly and respectful to her

PARTICULARLY while she is pregnant

we all know how vulnerable and sick you get when you are pregnant and if you are not in a stable situation it is WORSE

good luck and you can email me if you want

so much to say

If it IS positive and she gets kicked out, take her in. If her parents don't like the fact she had sex, they'll have to deal with it cuz it happened. Tell her parents that even if she is pregnant, she could go through with it and put the baby up for adoption. When you think about it, it's not that big of a deal.

You need to support your son to support the mother of his child. That doesn't mean doing everything for him. It takes 2 to make a baby. If you are uncomfortable with her staying in your home then I would require your son to find suitable living situation for her. Do not make your son feel as if he is obligated to marry her just because she got pregnant. However make sure that he knows that since he is the father he needs to be responsible and take the initiative to provide for his child

You are a very supportive mother. I would say yes let her into your home and give her the family support she needs plus it will be good for your son to go threw the whole pregnancy with her. Congrats Grandma to be.

If her parents throw her out, you can take her into your home.

She might be able to file for emancipation (that is legally leaving her parents before 18) but I'm not sure of the laws in your state.

Take her home and plan a quick and simple wedding and see if her parents agree. Get her parents involved if you can. Let them live with you, but as independant adults. Make them be responsible for the care and cost of the baby.

Maybe the marriage won't last, but it sets a precidence for responsibility.

If her parents are mad about this, please be careful. Your son got a minor pregnant. In most states he can be charged with statutory rape and end up as a sex offender. As the fathers parent maybe you can arrange for the two of you to meet with her and her family and talk about this. Does she plan to keep it, give it up, etc? These are huge decisions for a child at that age. Please remain supportive of both of them, they really need love now, not a parent who is going to disown them.