How would you feel if your husband found you to be just average?

i would feel like his loosing intrest in me or if hes regretting even being with me

I would go and get a makeover, a couple new sexy outfits and come in looking GREAT then call the girls and make some plans for girls night out or lunch dates whatevers convienient. Let him know that you are beautiful where it counts and you are going to spend time with people who appreciate it. Confidence is soooo much more attractive than physical beauty. Just make sure you rub in his face how much of a loss you could be. And let him stew by not being able to undermine the confidence in yourself that he obviously has kept knocked down for so many years.

He might just be a very blunt person, insensitive or you might have being bugging him too much with questions that warranted a hurtful answer.Not to say that is an excuse to answer so stupidly. Anyway i would be very hurt if he said that to me at this point no matter how he tries to cover that up you would always feel like you are not good enough to him, reaffirm your own self don't let someone else make you feel low about yourself.cheers

I would be very hurt and upset, if my husband ever said something like that to me...

When you love someone, and I mean truly love them.. that love should make them the most wonderful and beautiful person in the world, to you.

I could be way off with this one, but it sounds like your husband was just trying to hurt you when he said that. I can't imagine any other reason why he would say something like that to you.

You two need to have a serious talk, about why he said what he said. as well as how it made you feel. There's obviously something wrong, somewhere in your relationship.. and it needs to be dealt with.

How sad, that anyone could say such hurtful things to the person they are supposed to love and cherish.

Smile, put out your hand and ask for the credit card. Head straight for the best Spa. Hair, nails, massage and whatever else you want.

Look in the mirror and realize that you are a GREAT woman.

Make a call and have him meet you at the mall. Tell him to take you shopping. Let him pick out what he feels is hot on you. WEAR IT. Let him watch who is watching YOU.

Go out to dinner and flirt with each other. If he still feels you are average...take your new wardrobe and go out to look for something you like.

I am SURE You WILL find someone who would not hurt you like that.

Really, my first husband did say that to me. So I know it worked just fine. He even started spending a lot more on my wardrobe. He was having a bad day and took it out on me. Made not just lemon aid on that one - I make a Margaretta.

We all have bad days. Love him like you would like to be loved on a bad day. Barbara

I think that your hubby was being deliberately mean to you.

You probably hurt him in some way, and he was doing his best to get back at you.

For one thing, if he didn't think you were anything special, then, somehow, he wouldn't have married you. Men tend to marry and remained married to a woman only if they think that she's special.

This is the only type of person they'd take to their parents.

He says that you are being silly, because he's probably realizing how harsh he was and doesn't know how to handle it.

I'd make him go without for a few days to teach him!

Give him the silent treatment as well as the cold shower, and make sure you look good to eat, so that next time he wants to hurt you, he'd think twice what he wants to use!

xxx

Your husband has failed to learn a very valuable life lesson and you need to clue him in:

Men, it doesn't matter if you think your woman isn't hot. You have to pretend that she is. Even if you think she's a 7 (which any woman should be proud to be), she'll be insulted to find out that she's not a 10. Obviously, there aren't many 10's out there (theoretically only 10% are). But all women have to believe that they are one in the eyes of their man.

Logic does not matter here. What matters is that you have to maintain the illusion or you will get in trouble.

Your husband thinks you are beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Why he told you that, I don't know. I'm sure there are times when he finds you very attractive and sexy. He probably didn't mean it the way you took it. I'm sure he really does love you for who you are. Oh yeah, he's not the best-looking thing either.

You're not silly for having your feelings hurt, but if what he thinks about your looks is the only thing that matters, you are a fool.

Obviously, the fact that he chose to be with you says there's, quite literally, more to attraction and a marriage than meets the eye. I am sure he enjoys your company and conversation and appreciates the things you do that show him you love him.

If you put him on the spot and asked him what he thought of your looks, you deserve what you got. We can't all be swimsuit and lingere models, and if you aren't one and ask a guy about your looks, you are forcing him to lie to you.

The person you are inside is what he fell in love with, and that's going to last a lot longer than looks. If you are still feeling hurt and insecure, ask him what it is he really loves about you, and cheer yourself up by remembering that the sexy girls in the magazines and on TV can't do and be that for him.

I don't know how to help you on this..except to ask you this.. have you ever asked him why he married you?

Consider.. did he ask you to marry him in just a plain way without frills or special thought behind his question? Were you disappointed inside but didn't tell him when he asked you?

You can change your life with him drastically by changing how you think and eventually he may follow you into a new way of thinking about the two of you. If he says you are average..he may also mean he considers himself to be average.

Life need not be average. It can have incredible and rich meaning behind every word ..behind every door a new adventure.. in every cloud hope wafting just above your heart waiting for you to grab what God offers.

The world is a huge place with many many things to do! GO for it babe!!!!

I must ask. Did you ask him first what he thought or did he just come out and say that. Us women ask stupid things sometimes just to hear a compliment. However, if you asked and asked for the truth then you brought it on yourself.

You probably aren't drop dead gorgeous. Very few women are Angelina Jolie. That is okay. He wasn't saying he didn't love you. You are beautiful to him now that he knows you, however, some people you have to get to know to see their beauty.

I wouldn't feel too bad. Yes, I am sure it hurt. Nobody wants to hear that from someone they love. But I am sure that you already knew you weren't drop dead gorgeous.

Just don't ask questions like that, because men are dumb that way and sometimes tell the truth. They should learn to lie about stuff like that, but....