Could You Be "Just Friends" With Someone You're In Love With?

it's very hard to do, speaking from experience. I was with a guy whom I know we both really cared for each other and there was great chemistry and we were both deeply involved in our church, but his parents would tell him how young he was to be with someone of an older age..he was 22 and i was 26. So he wound up listening to them and about a year later he got engaged and I was the church wedding coordinator so i had to coordinate his wedding!!! WE DID TRY TO BE FRIENDS PRIOR TO HIS ENGAGEMENT, BUT IT WAS TOO HARD. For some people it works, but not everyone and not me and not you. So sorry it had to happen, but move on and find that special someone God has for you!

Well I am in the same situation and I am about to come to your conclusion. It is just so hard. I try to be there for her but she only wants to talk when it is convenient for her or when she needs something. It has to go both ways. I could be her friend but I want a friend I can depend on too. I am still madly in love with her but I don't want to loose her frienship as she is the only friend I have.

I was very difficult and didn't last long...we got back together...but my boyfriend and I were friends about 5 months before we got back together (and this was after an 8 month break-up). I was still in love with him, and we were able to keep it friends, but we were also both very busy. It depends on your situation and personality, but it's almost impossible to do.

Personally, I can't do it either. I'm an all or nothing person, totally in or totally out, there is no in between. I don't think men and women were designed to be "just friends" if there is love there for one of them.

Yes, why not. Why not be friends and see if it changes things. I have a very nice guyfriend and we are more so best freinds but we are involved. We are there for each other. It is better then having someone all worried and acting romantic with you. Be just friends, and see if things change. What do you have to lose?

I am also dealing with this,only I didn't know he loved me untill he moved on. I thought we were just friends. I was in love with him for 12yrs. He says he's been inlove with me waiting for me for 5yrs.He never told me and now I've lost him. He wants to be friends I CAN'T I tried to . Take my advice move on for yourself!!!!

it will be hard but if you want to stay friends, YOU CAN.

your feelings will pass & when they do you'll have a friend :)

i'm going through the same thing, i love someone & i will never be anything more than a friend but i want to stay friends with her, so i'm going to try my best, it''ll be hard but i'd rather have her as a friend than nothing at all

good luck. i'm in the same situation right now. i'm hoping that if i wait long enough she'll see me as more than just a friend.

ya its hard but you can always love them i love my best friend very much but i just cant be friends with him.

I can't do it either. I tried and it was way too painful. Kudos to everyone that can.