Is it ok to talk to an old ex for advice?

Advice? Thats what yahoo answers is for lol! Just kidding!

Anyways, If you have a girlfriend, you should let her know that you are friends with an ex and you guys talk sometime. Because if you are secretive about it, then your girlfriend will think something more is going on. Us women have wild imaginations lol. But if the conversations are really nothing and innocent (like you claim) then telling your girlfriend shouldn't be a problem. And I'm pretty sure if you are upfront and honest about it. She will respect your honesty and won't mind you talking to your ex.

If you have a wife? Then it's the exact opposite of what I said above. And you shouldn't talk to an ex. Unless you two have children together.

p.s. just NEVER give your girlfriend a reason to think there is more going on with you and your ex. However it is possible that old feelings may come back. So be careful.

Well I would think you still have (if anything) a financial responsibility to the kiddies. If they will be better off with the aunt says versus you who they may be more aggravation that you'd care to take on after all this time I'd check with the aunt, arrange for visitation and make the same regulary scheduled payments you had been making to the ex. As far as her stuff goes I would say that should be the concern of the immediate family and not yours. As she was an ex there wouldn't be anything you'd need to file with the courts other than informing them she died, get a certified copy of the death certificate to give to the clerk and then adjust or modify the child support payment. Again...it doesn't negate you from paying. just one party is eliminated. good luck

I would say, on the whole, no.

I'm sure you have plenty of friends anyway, and unless you and this woman were friends for a long time before you got together, why would you want to be friends now?

The only reason I can see for talking to this woman is curiosity. You are both wondering 'what if'. It's always interesting to know what has happened to an ex years down the line, but really perhaps all you want to hear is that they are sorry they lost you. Could this be an ego stroking exercise on your part?

Be careful you don't send out mixed messages to this woman.

If your not married.... Yes And your Gf/bf should understand your friends before you guys get to attached. Now if your married this can be tricky. I know it bothers my spouse but I am VERy upfont about it. I always tell him when I did and never lie about it. I don't do it very often. Just when I get SUPER bored and well I see myself getting angry about a situation with my spouse I ask my ex's opinion usually he leads me to see that I am being unreasonable or my spouse is being a jerk. We were together for 4 years he knows me more than I know myself so I find those talks very helpful. you can always learn from your mistakes. I say if your Significant other is upset about it tell them that. Explain it. I tell my husband It's either I talk to him when he is in another state or I go out angry drink... / and who knows what could happen. Its just a phone call!

im just sharing experience, cause, situations are different...

i talk to my ex when i need to, i need to when it comes to the kids. that is fewer and father between now, ours are now almost 20 & 22, and his wife and Sgt. know we are discussing the kids. Sgt. knows he can trust me with anything and everything including but not limited to his life and heart!

Put it this way, how would you feel if your partner did the same thing by talking to one of her ex's about you.

I see no problem with it,as long as your not in a relationship now.

its never a good idea especially if u have a gf now..

probably not A good idea. she could give you bias advice

If you are married....don't think so. Unless of course you want a divorce.....