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Okay, I have been with a guy for almost 4 years we have a 2 year old son, and I have a 7 year old from a previous marriage(I am 25) Due to some circumstances we are living at our parents homes, we joined MySpace so that we could have instant messaging, I have tried not to have any guys on my page without their girlfriends, not one of the guys that I have are single. Well I found out that my boyfriend has been talking to singles on there they are on his page is what he claims and that I should have no reason. I have been given a reason before to worry, I found emails between him and a married woman telling each other that they are glad that the other is there for them. Anyway, his mother who wont work is going to be evicted, and the rent that she has there I think that we would be able to make it, I get child support and he works, my family is about to open a business so I will have a permanent, well paying job in a few months. But his reason for not wanting to live with me is because
he says that we fight too much, I think that it is because for the last 3 and a half years we have lived together, and now I have no idea what he does, he doesnt want to talk to me, I gave him the option to end it and he told me that if that is what I want to do for me to do it. He claims that he wants this to work but he says that he is tired of trying and that I should do all of the work, I think that for a realtionship to work that you both have to work at it. I just dont know what to do, should I fight for this to make it work, or am I just going crazy?!?! It seems to me that he would rather live on the streets than have me try to help him out. OMG WHAT DO I DO!?!?! Thanks
Thanks alot to the first person, my tubes are tied for your information, it is people like you who shouldnt have children
I may have some growing up to do but I was married to a military man and he was out slutting around with the girls on his boat while they were out to sea, that is why I am not with him. I could have sat back and acted like he naever did that but I chose to get out of it. I was with him a while before WE CHOSE TO HAVE OUR SON and I have known him for almost 10 years, he wasnt a stranger off the street. Thanks to all of you who had serious answers and that make sense
Im at my parents house, so the fact the he is getting evicted doesnt afftect me at all. I am in the process of buying a house, but I bet that he would want to live with me at that point in time. I think that I have my answer and I really appreciate all of your answers!
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- DewLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
He has it free and easy,you are taking are of the kids and he can see you and chat to the other girls on line.He needs to step up and make a real commitment to you and the kids,I say you get that apt in your name and see if he wants to stay or go,If he goes so be it,But you will know and have a roof over you and your kids .
- 1 decade ago
First of all i think u should trust him if he hasn't done anything wrong. Especially if its just a little support from someone through email. and has some girls on his page. If you feel something in your gut then the appropriate thing to do is ask him about it. And tell him that you are not ok with it. and if he wants to keep these friends then you would like to meet them, (if he hangs out with them) if he doesn't do bother. as far as not moving in, you need to sit down and talk with him and ask him why. Remember if u don't have trust u don't have a relationship and communication is the key. Good luck!
- Sharon MLv 61 decade ago
First of all, I would never live with someone I wasn't married to, especially if I had a child. Second, I think it is obvious that there is another woman in the picture. Do not move in with him again. In fact, I think now would be a good time to dump him altogether. Expend your time and energy raising your child and working so that you can move out of your parents' house on your own.
- toneLv 61 decade ago
Listen to yourself.....quit making excuses. Do not even consider living together unless you have some things cleared up. You both sound insecure. You are looking for e-mails, trying to keep single guys off your my space....see the problem with my space, this is what happens, it ruins lives. You should've just signed up for yahoo instant messaging or msn messenger. You both need counseling to work out your lives. moving in would be a big mistake. I also think you need to consider your children's lives and future. You need to be a mom and stand on your own without a man. I am sure your boyfriend has a reason not to move in. sounds like he is a lot like mommy.....either get counseling or move on, and don;t have more children til you are in a tru committed relationship whihch this doesn't sound like it is. Sounds like he likes to live w/mom and pay the field and you have no clue as to what is occuring. time for soul searching and to grow up...you are an adult and a mother, act like one, not a whining teenager
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- 1 decade ago
You left yourself why open but I will do my best to help answer your question. Simply tell him not to get any more e-mails from other people if it upsets you very much, period. It is a respect thing and I don't think he's respecting you.
About his mother being evicted its between all of you to take care of that problem. Try to get your stuff together since you both have children who look up to you. I hope this helps you out. Ciao!!!
Source(s): Life sucks!!! - Anonymous1 decade ago
I think it's time to part ways. He's probably emotionally checked out with your relationship and emontionally involved with another. You may have a kid together but it's better for you to make your life better rather than help him along when all he wants is for you to do all of the work. Kick him out and either let some other broad take care of him...or for him to step up to the plate and take care of his responsiblities.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Let it go. That stressed me out just reading it. Your good enough to have his baby but not live with ? He is talking to other woman on myspace. Seems to me that there is more going on than you know. I think he wants the single life but you as a back up plan. Let him go and move on.
- 1 decade ago
Hmm I would be careful hun. I cant tell you not to see this guy but this whole thing doesnt look good to me. Whatever you do dont settle for someone who isnt going to treat you like you should be treated. You should always feel loved by your parnter. Oh and if he isnt willing to try then he isnt worth it. If he wanted it to work he would make it work. He's just to lazy to end it.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
i think he wants to move on or he didnt want a child, maybe but i think that u should get away from him and start over move to a different state and take ur kids.if i was u i would sell that business and move to an apartment or something and find a new job then save up to buy a small store to own.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
you stopped writing at the "because"....
This sounds like a total mess. I think you should get your tubes tied.
Your "people like you shouldn't have children" was a mindless insult. You could have called me rude or unfriendly, and that might have been somewhat accurate.
It just sounds to me like you have a LOAD of growing up to do. You are way too careless about getting pregnant and find yourself stuck with losers.
You CHOSE at 17 to get pregnant? That was not terribly wise. And you obviously made a bad choice. And then did you CHOSE to get pregnant by this new bf and start living with parents?
I think your CHOICES are horrendous.
