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liketoplay420
liketoplay420 asked in HealthMental Health · 1 decade ago

borderline personality in dbt class needs perspective?

okay i'm borderline, have been diagnosed for six months or so. until then i just assumed i was depressed and had an anger problem.

i know the problem is me for most of the things that go wrong in my life. i'm not blind or oblivious to it. i've been doing dbt class for about 2 months.

i feel like i get some things out of it but mostley they are either going way to slow (like some ppl don't get it) or i feel like they touch on subjects that don't apply to me. i smoke weed every day, i know that puts a damper on my disorder and is harder to treat.

my question is why do i feel so horrible about my boyfriends love for me. like tonight i wake up and find he's sleeping in the spare bedroom, again. i went to bed before him. we have one day a week we can wake up together and i wanted to do exactly that. part of me knows i'm just being crazy to think negatively about this, part of me feels hurt and rejected when i wake up to him being gone. the pain feels so real and intense. what do i do?

Update:

would someone without bpd feel hurt to wake up without their partner next to them on many occasions, a few times a week. or is this just part of my disorder that will hopefully get better? i feel so lost

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  • Elvendra
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    I have BPD too and I know what you mean about how it feels to wake up alone when your b/f has moved to the other room.

    Mine has done it a few times and I got all angry and "borderline" over it.

    There is probably a reason he changed rooms. Mine did because he couldn't sleep and didn't want to wake me.

  • J B
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Part of your feelings may be part of your disorder but their also may be issues that you are not doing the most to help yourself get better, the smoking the weed daily also impairs your judgement and "dumbs you down" so that you may not be doing things that were recommended. Your boyfriend may be voicing his frustration with you for not working hard to get this under control by sleeping in the other bedroom rather than picking a fight with you. You need to work on yourself first and do the things your counselor is recommending and then work on a relationship.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It's a bad thing to be diagnosed with. I was told by two psychiatrists I have it. All I can say is I hope I don't. I believe you can find plenty of things about this disorder online. Make sure and not allow labels to rule your life.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Fear of abandonment is symptomatic of BPD. See anger management, and BPD, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 4, and 15. He is probably in the habit of sleeping there, and just plain forgot: remind him, in future: leave a note on that bed.

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