Is wife sleeping with him?

You are getting a divorce! Who cares? Move on with your life and worry about who you are dating next. It seems most men see their woman as their possession even after a divorce. When women get a divorce they don't care who their ex's date as long as it isn't their best friend.

Well no one on here can tell you for sure but it does sound like she was up to something sometime before she wanted a divorce. She should have been up front and honest with you to start with as no one deserves this kind of treatment. Plus why are you so ok with it? You don't sound like you care that much. If you did then you would have asked her straight out a long time ago. And not given up until you had the answers you were looking for. I am sorry for what you are going through but I think you have suspected for some time what she was up to but didn't want to believe it. Good luck with the divorce and I hope you can find a more trustworthy partner in future. Make sure she gives you most of everything for what she has done to you. Don't let her take that away like she has taken away your dignity.

Does it even matter if she's sleeping with him or not at this point? DIvorce proceedings have started, she said she definitely wants a divorce...let it go. I know you may still love her/be in love with her etc, but you can not make someone love you or want to be with you. Save yourself even more heartache and pain and let the detective business go. Good Luck.

PS--And NO don't go asking the guy, you will look like a schmuck (you don't know what's she's told him about you.)

I'm sorry to hear this. Since I'm not her nor am I there to be a true witness my answer may be incorrect...

I would drop her like a bag of rocks and I would never look back because she is just that - a bag of rocks.

You are married to this woman and yet her mind is still stuck in the past on another potential mate? even if she hasn't done anything physical with him, her mind sounds pretty damn unfaithful to me.

you think she didnt?, didnt do him?, are you kidding?, she rode the pony, she did it like a wild animal, why do you think she called him 3 times, she was leaving his place, wake up, use it in the divorce procedings, it is sooo over.

also notice how the females in the question react, completely different if it was role reversed, a man doing the same thing, they would want him hung, quartered and tarred, ran out of town.

good grief.

Dude...reality check...

At this point it doesn't matter if she's sleeping with him (she probably is with those "together' times.

The important thing is that she is having a secret life outside your current life. She's hiding things from you. In a nutshell...she's lying through omission.

And since you are beginning a divorce...does it matter anymore? She wants the divorce...something probably happened.

Sorry...best of luck!

Doesn't sound like she has YET. But, as you guys are divorcing, your not intimate with your wife, and he's probably telling her all the right crap, "we should've been together , I've always wanted you, I always think about you". Sounds like just a matter of time. Good Luck

I think you should stop torturing yourself over it. It's over between you and her, and she obviously couldn't care less about how you feel about her, or about anything.

If she was hanging out with him even while you two were dating, she should have never married you in the first place, and that should have been a huge warning sign for you, too.

Please, do all you can to move on with your life now, don't allow yourself to get stuck in this kind of torture, don't let her do that to you.

There are women out there who would never think about cheating on the one they love, you will find someone like this one day.

I hate to say it, but it seems she has been lying to you at each step. It doesn't look like she will come clean untill you absolutely prove something more happened.

But if you guys are getting a divorce, what does it matter?

Sleep w/ her hot younger sister or something.

Sounds like a drunken booty call to me. Some women go a bit crazy when getting a divorce!