adoption question?

I was adopted at 2 1/2 years old (by my maternal grandmother and stepgrandfather). My brother was also adopted at the same time, and he was 5 months old. We also have a half sister who was raised by our biological mother. We were told right away about being adopted. We didn't understand it right away because we were so young, but to us we had heard it so much for so long that it mad no difference to us. We were raised as our 'parents' own kids, and our sister knew what happened from day one and she was raised as our sister all along. I believe that telling the adopted ones from day one is a good idea. They may not understand while they are so young, but they will eventually get the meaning and understand it. If it is done in a loving, caring way, letting the child know that the family he/she is in now is his family, that they love him, etc, it will go well. Just don't let him/her know that his/her birth parents didn't want him or he/she will feel unwanted and unloved. What my parents did was tell us a 'generic' story about what happened until we got older and could understand all of it better. Every year they would add a little more detail or depth to it. When we would ask questions, they would answer them honestly.

I have heard that some people won't tell their kids until they are adults that they have been adopted. I don't believe in this because the adopted child will no longer know who he/she is, will believe that his/her life has been a total lie all along, and will hate the parents that adopted him/her for lying all that time. I believe that the sooner the better when dealing with something like this so the child won't feel lied to and betrayed.

Good luck. I do hope this has helped.

Well, my mother had my older brother with a different guy and my dad adopted my brother when he was 9 months old. We could have gone on telling him that we had the same father like no big deal, but I think my parents told him around 6 or 7. When he started asking the question, why don't I look like dad like my sister does??? He was old enough and we've never been treated like half-siblings. My father has raised him and was a father to him before I even came along..

And I have 5 cousins who are adoped from Korea, and we're caucasian, so they all "look" different, but are no different to any of us. And the community that we live in doesn't look at, or think of them any different. They may get a nicer tan than me in the summer, but that's the ONLY difference ! =)

Good Luck!

well im not adopted or anything but i think there is no good time to tell him that he is adopted he still will be shocked.

but its better if you tell the child instead of the child finding out another way so yeah

i hope i helped