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He is still not happy?

My husband and I have been arguing about how much time he spends with his friends. He told me he just wanted to be able to do whatever, whenever and not have it effect me.

So today I told him that he can do whatever he wants, if that will make him happy. He didnt seem happy or excited to hear that, so what else does he want?

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  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    He probably actually enjoys you having a go at him for going out - like a naughty boy being told off by his mum!

    Now that you have called his bluff the game is no fun any more.

    I would make time for yourself to go out with your friends too and you also need to arrange times out together with your husband.

    You need a bit of variety to make a marriage work and you need to be your own woman to a certain extent.

    Source(s): Married for 15 years to a guy who sounds like yours!
  • 1 decade ago

    so, I have been in this situation and the crappy thing was he wanted to hang out with his friends more than me because of how I was treating him. I'm not saying your situation is the same but what a difference it made when I made an effort to make him happy. I quit complaining and being witchy and wonder of all wonders he started wanting to be around me more and eventually all the friends that weren't kind to me weren't around anymore. The other thing we had going against us is we married young so we both were having a hard time adjusting to being married. We have a much better relationship now and although we each make time for our friends we make sure our being together is a number one priority. Hope that helps.

  • Jecht
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    your husband wasnt ready to settle down yet and is still acting like a single person. I bet his friends are all single arent they? I know this happened with my cousin. all his friends was single and he was married. I am married also and tried to tell him not a good idea to hand out with single friends all the time. but everyoen needs time away and hang with their friends need it be guys or gals. but what he wants is too much and I dont see this marrage lasting too long unless you are willling to live with it and it sounds like you wont.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    he wants the best of both worlds. he wants to hang with his friends and at the same time he doesn't want you to get upset with the fact he spends that time with his friends. Now since you said it is ok, he probably don't beleive you!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Don't go at it that way because you are going to be miserable. You need to set up boundaries you will both be happy with. Don't just tell him to talk all over you.

  • 1 decade ago

    to be a selfish egotistical jerk. You go do your thing and get rid of him. Let him have his friends. If he doesnt want to be around, then he doesnt need to be.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your husband is selfish and crazy

  • Lucci
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    He is very immature and needs to grow up.

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