Is it possible to be gay and homophobic?

Yes, it is.

If you look at Mark Foley, Ted Haggard, Larry Craig, Bob Allen, & Glenn Murphy all of them engage in gay acts while not liking other gay people.

While I'm gay and don't always enjoy hanging out with other gay guys, to be a homophobe is another issue. The definition of a homophobe is someone who is completely against all people that have the same characteristics or of a specific class etc. I think you should take a good look at yourself and maybe seek some help.

some of the most homophobic people I've ever met were actually gay themselves... although usually deeply in the closet and their homophobia was a product of their desire to stay there. A lot of gay men have a fear that hanging out with other gay people somehow makes them fit into the stereotype... which is a big fear for some people. Its something you'll either get over, get on with or go crazy because of... good luck!

particular that's a threat. some human beings do no longer only like the reality they have been born gay and resent it. Others are homophobic by means of fact they experience being gay is a bad ingredient and unnatural. Others are homophobic to conceal their very own sexuallity. As for the different woman, I's assume she hates female men frequently fairly than only gay female men. that's somewhat complicated to understand and clarify yet in precis that's a threat.

It is really common. Besides, you can be gay without liking the culture. You also may not like effeminate guys and they can dominate some groups, as well as promiscuous guys can dominate other groups. You may just have a more solitary life, finding your partners where you are, rather than by hanging out with other gays in groups. If you continue to be honest with people around you, you will meet other gays who are not openly practicing, and this may be more comfortable for you both. Just like not every straight person likes the bar scene, not every gay man will like to hang out in a meat-shop setting of gay lifestyle, either. Besides, everyone has types of people in "their group" or "their culture" who they dislike or feel uncomfortabel around - you are free to pick your own friends and lovers.

yes, it is possible to be gay and homophobic. A lot of people who are homophobic have repressed feelings about their being gay and it causes them to lash out. Sometimes yu can be gay and hate certain things about yourself and project it on other gay people.

As for you, i think you just need to surround yourself with different gay guys, because it seems you've chosen friends that you have little in common with.

Dude I am the same way. I am pretty sure I am gay, but cannot fit in with other gay guys. Also, though I am attracted to men, the idea of actually doing anything sexual sickens me.

Maybe people should read the question before answering! But yeah, I rarely hang around with gay people and most of my mates are straight guys (ha I think!!) so I don't think it's wierd!

you may not want a relationship at all, or you may not like the gay people you know, find a gay bar, or a local gay associtaion to mingle in, maybe you will find that it isn't homophobia but you just don't like certain gay people

i don't think their is anything wrong with you :).

i know how you feel,i feel as if i don't fit in with them either.

I'm also gay and a guy and i don't know why but some gay guys i just don't really like them either.

BUT i don't judge the ones i don't know its the ones i do know that aren't so great but then their are a few who are pretty cool [like me,lol just kidding! :) ].

i think this is normal though

your not going to like everyone you meet and everyone that meets you isn't always going to like you either

thats how the cookie crumbles :)