How do you feel about spanking children?

I believe that spanking is a great form of discipline for certain events in life for others it's not so good and there's an age range where it is effective. It should be a parents choice to spank their child and that it shouldn't be against the law. I can say one thing though people are correct in order for it to be effective and for it to work you can't use spankings when you're upset, angry, etc.....

I don't think it is a form of child abuse unless it gets out of hand. I was spanked as a child and it worked well. Of course there are other forms of punishment that work well with each child, you have to remember every child is different just because one punishment works for one child it doesn't necessarily mean it's going to work on another. Also, I would never use a belt on my child. It would be with the hand or a wooden spoon that's it.

People who are anti-spanking like to say it causes other things such as lack of self-confidence, the only way to solve problems is with violence, etc........ From what I've seen if a spanking is done properly no child is going to think that and from experience I was never violent with anyone and never thought it was right to use it against anyone because my dad taught me that hitting someone is wrong and he also taught me how to manage my anger.

Self-Confidence is another story in itself and it has nothing to do with spankings even if the anti spanking group sites studies from surverys done by children who were spanked and who have low self-confidence it's a correlational study which means you can't deem causation from it.

The studies more then likely didn't take into account other factors that can lead to low confidence in a child. I can list tons of reason why a child would lack confidence in themselves such as being made fun of in school, being teased, harassed, negative thoughts that are put in their head from those people who are teasing them, etc........ In order for a child to really boost confidence in themselves is to change their thinking.

I keep on seeing answers on here that are quite ridiculous. Well if you spank your child it teaches them that in order to get a point across you have to do it by hitting another person. I find that very ignorant if a parent is doing there job there's not going to be any problem with the child having that issue in fact more then likely you see the children who do hit have never been disciplined in their life. Again in order for any effective punishment from spanking, grounding, timeouts, etc.....Communication is the key in all discipline from spanking, grounding, timeouts, etc..........

A lot of people don't understand how to disapline there children in the RIGHT way in most cases if you spank your child at first yes it works great but then your child becomes numb from it I feel that a timeout is more suitable for a child that is missbehaving I see parents that full on HIT there children and I feel so sad for them....How can you hit your baby right?! But in my own personal opinion like you asked no I do not think that spanking is good unless your child is simply NOT listening then yes a light tap on the bottom is okay in my book...: )

it all depends on the age of the child and what the reasoning of the punishment is. It is very important that the child knows why exactly he/she is being punished.

For example, swatting a kid's hand when they touch the stove is ok or a few swats on the rear for misbehaving is alright. Beating your child with a belt or other extremes I am against. If your child always gets violent punishments then they learn that violence is the only way things get done. That is wrong.

I am going to just say one thing that I think everyone will agree with. Some kids turn out fine with spanking, some do not, some parents choose to spank and some don't, and it is all good because kids learn in different ways, and as long as you're not causing physical or emotional harm, let it be. But if the child does not react well to spanking, don't spank.

Personally, I think spanking should not be used because it teaches violence, but that is MY opinion, which I am entitled to.

I was spanked and came out just fine. I belive that it is more than okay. I "love" it when people who have no children give input. My sis in-law is a social worker and she has all of these techniques, but she dosen't have children . Every Parent knows what is best for their kid, it's just some need to apply it and see what works, and what does not, and as long as you are not beating a child a swat on the bottom or hand won't turn you into a killer, when you grow up!! Your fine.

I think a "pop" on the butt to get their attention is fine.

However...

People who take their own anger issues out on a child is messed up. To repeatedly spank a child (more than just once) is pointless. To spank a child an hour after they've done wrong is pointless.

It depends on the child, and on the discipliner. The spanker must be in control of the situation, and the child must know why they're being punished.

My MIL spanked my 2 year old niece for not "coming here" when she called her.....that to me, is ridiculous and one of the many reasons my children don't go over there

well my mother used to spank me when i was younger and she told me i used to laugh everytime she spanked me so she had to find a new way to punish me!she took away my priveledges like watching t.v. and eating.JUST KIDDING!i ate but tv was still the most important thing so i would be devastated.

anyways,yeah i think spanking does teach children a lesson because most dont like it (except me) but im not normal!

Being that a spanking is merely a swat or two on the bottom and has nothing to do with abuse, I believe in it.

I agree with you 100%. If it doesn't work, then another discipline should be used for the child like time outs or taking away their stuff so they have to earn it back. My teens hate that one :) It's great now a days, because we didn't have cell phones or Ipods :) My 16 year old, I threaten her with having to quit her job if she messes up again along with the cell phone and Ipod removal.

I agree

I think its a good way to get to the child if nothing else works.