Ladies How would you take it?

It just sounds like a man talking - who is being insensitive to you - and probably wants to upset you.

This guy was not made to marry you. Those words .. or even a huge ultimatum would not make him marry you if he did not want to marry you.

He married you because he wanted to marry you. He is just being hurtful right now. Blow what he said off .. don't worry about it. Besides - if he didn't want to stay married to you - he is not being forced to stay with you either .. that is what divorce is for.

Don't allow yourself to be hurt by him.

I have been too the ultimatum gate before with a woman and we didn't get married and I'm glad. I did love her and a lot of things were great, not everything, but who ever gets it all. The thing about it is, when she said set a date or else. It struck me wrong and at that point it didn't feel like a partnership and I knew that day if I just did as she said it was over for me as far as any decision making was concerned in our relationship. I did try talking too her and suggested that we wait a few months until some things finished up and then we could plan everything but she just cut the sex off and stood her ground so I knew it was over. Very sad at the time but I prefer a partnership thats more equal.

That is for her to think about. If a woman say's "either you marry me or it's over!" then it'll be good bye because I'm not gonna invest time on a marriage for something I didn't want in the first place. I know women are supposed to answer this but it pisses me off when men won't have the balls to say "hey, I don't want to marry you." It also pisses me off when she gets mad if he decides to spends his time with his friends. So women, don't pressure your guy into marriage unless he knocked you up.

I would wonder why this guy is so easily instructed to do something! Most normal guys won't take an ultimatum...they will walk before they do...so, is this guy that EASY to control?? If so, issue another one for something you really want, get it and dump him.

sounds like the pressure was put on - you may have asked too many times "when" - most women know when they are ready and men usually wait it out til' the end, so yes it's seems to be an ultimatum

first of all, why do women get into these situations where they put ultimatums on men?! seriously, if he wanted to marry you, he would have concluded that for himself and did the whole she-bang of proposing unprompted.

It sounds like you got into a fight, and he's saying things to hurt you. Talk to him, and tell him that he really needs to stop saying things like that when you fight...it puts doubt in your head, and makes you fight even worse. Also, add that if he means what he's saying, to go ahead and leave if he was "forced" to marry you. No one is forcing him to stay! My bet, though, is that he's just saying it b/c you asked him about getting married, and he's now using it to hurt you. No one forced him to marry you...

did he says this while he was angry, if so let it go,

if not and he was serious , you got a problem..

next time choose a man and not a little boy who does what momma says to do.( you better marry me or I'm taking all your toys away) sounds like you created this mess. little missy.

hmm most guys either marry because the women really want it or they do and maybe he feels you wanted it although you said its his choice...how rude of him...so hes basically saying I DIDNT WANT TO MARRY YOU id say then pack your bags and leave

I would take it as if he was mad or upset and he was just being an *** I'm sure he didn't mean it and I'm sure he loves you just Waite until he comes down and in a good mood and then bring it up. believe me been there done that!!!