Asking all men for your honest answer ... or women who've experienced this with their husbands...?

If he's a REAL man he'll act the part. Get a job and support or at least carry his part of the load. Does he still have testic!es or a reasonable facsimile?

I do all of those things, and I sometimes resent not being given an option. however, it isn't imposed on me, and I don't do it just because he said so. It just so happens I make more money, have the work ethic to work even whenI am sick, etc. That being said, men are babies when they are sick and most child care responsibilitites just fall to me. I often wish he would do more, but if wishes were dollars...

I believe an equal relationship would be best, but where there is inequality in one aspect of a relationship that leans toward one side, there may be another aspect that leans the other was in a different part of the partnership. With us, he does all the 'fixin;' and he helps with laundry, and is always good about me getting my personal time with friends. Everyone needs to find thoer personal balance. I honestly don't know how to change how much or how little a man will or will not do. You can't make them do anything.

I'm more than happy to take care of the financial side, provide the income, house, food, etc. and take care of maintenance, handyman tasks, and phone calls she doesn;'t want to make LOL.

I let her stay at home with the kids, take care of the cooking. When she's sick I'll try to take time off work to take care of her and the kids for the day.

Lots of chores we share like cleaning, discipline, and shopping.

I certainly don't see her as the "weaker" in our relationship - being with our kids all day and taking care of the house is a tough job and I genuinely appreciate what she does.

Our marriage has a lot of problems, but on these things we agree.

In my opinion i think the man should be the provider to a certain point in the marriage....in mine we both work he is the sole provider...but i also work....he takes care of the kids, and so do i, i clean house and he helps out, he does the same stuff i do...of course i do a little more because i like things a certain way....but a marriage should be compromise not who is bigger and better and who makes more money. if u want to work u should be able to work like he does just because your married does not mean u can't have your own life and mind.

A marriage is a partnership and thus should be equal in financial contribution as well as taking care of your house or any kids that might come into play. Being the sole provider sucks, I can answer that for sure as my ex boyfriend still owes me over $3,000 from "squatting" in my apartment. However, I would NEVER, EVER be a homemaker. NEVER IN MY LIFE. In fact, I am so opposed to this position that I am extremely uncomfortable cleaning my current apartment. Within the next couple of years, I will be getting the services of a housekeeper. Kind of like the old "You never see any black people picking cotton" saying. There's so much oppression and sexism still prevalent these days that I would rather be dead than come close to fitting the stereotype. It's paid off, too. In a couple of years I will have a "Dr." before my name.

All I can answer is by my own humble experiences. When I worked, my husband treated me MUCH better. Once I gave up my career to move for his career, he began acting very differently toward me, pointing out that he was the head of household and doing as he pleased without considering my opinion. We are now divorcing. Yes, I would like to think that a woman who stays home to care for the children will be treated just as valuably as one who works. A few rare men are willing to do this. Many won't. So, based on my own experience, I would say keep your job to all women. Unfortunately, money equal power and options - and without money you have no power.

My SO loves a strong independent woman that can take care of herself. So that is me.

Anyway I work full time Always have Bring home good bacon. He works full time and brings better bacon. We work together and share the household (and have a housekeeper once a week) In certain areas I take charge he does in other ways. We complement each other We take cae of each other when we are sick as we are equal partners in this relationship We look after each other.

There is nothing "lowly" about being a mother, or raising children. Every marriage is different, and the roles in the family should be talked about openly and agreed upon for the best interest of all parties involved.

Woman have been doing most of it since the beginning of time, you aren't going to change things now.

My wife stayed home awhile when our twin

daughters were born, but when they became

2yrs old she wanted to work to help out, I agreed

and I told her it was not necessary but she wanted

to and I did not stop her. We both raised the girls

and now they are grown, we are retired and

living the life of riley. Since we worked hard and

saved we were able to retire when we were46

yrs old. So sharing the responsibilities in raising

the kids and maintenance of a home is nothing

wrong especially if the wife wants to go out and

work too.

Sounds like my marriage. In the beginning, I wanted to "play house" and be the perfect little homemaker, wife and mommy. Then, I realized that I need a life! I now, work full time (don't make a tremendous amount of money), but I cook, clean the house....all the little homemaker duties and guess what.....

His money is OUR money....pays bills and supports and since I still do my "motherly, homemaker & wifely" duties and work (so I can have a life) MY money is MY money...I use it to shop for what I want!

He still thinks I am "below" him, but who cares.....I know better! I chose to raise my children and now that they are teenagers I kind of do something for ME! I do NOT regret my choice! My babies are my LIFE! This way, I am able to give them a bit extra! I just let my husband feel like he's the boss to help with his ego! I know who really wears the pants! hahehaha