what are some strengths a counsellor needs when with a client?

A good counsellor must be empathetic. When counsellors get emotionally involved with their clients this affects the client in a negative way ( befriending the client for example, not taking an emotional distance -which is necessary). Good analytical skills are necessary, self-knowledge too. Wisdom. But not all counsellors are wise, just know a techique.

People who need help, connect and open up easier if the

counselor appears non threatening. Showing a genuine concern

for the person can help and lets the person feel more at ease.

Some counselors can be intimidating . Having a non judgmental attitude helps a lot Having the gift of listening more and knowing the right time to interject. Giving hope and

encouragement that the answers will come and the problems

can be solved if they are willing to do the work getting there.

A good counselor is one who is confident and believes he or

she can help the person. She shows she is on your side but

also allows you to see the other persons side , she or he must

first gain your trust. A relaxed and positive and even funny

counselor can do wonders.

When talking to like let's say a couple, make sure they both have equal time to speak--and if one seems to be controlling it is up to you to intervene and bring out the oratory ability of the other.

Patience above all else is so important. Once people begin to open up they do not want to stop and go off and every tangent imaginable. It is up to you to keep the conversation on target. Have your ducks lined-up so-to-speak. Actually, I hate what I just said--ducks lined-up. But you get the point.