My best friend just told me her problem. Don't know what to tell her?

My opinion is that your friend who is in love with her husband's uncle needs to realize that if she gets divorced and hooks up with the uncle, it will not look good in the family. When her kids grow up shes going to have to do alot of explaining. If the husband is having an affair that does not mean that she should go and have one too. Two wrongs dont make a right.

Also, the husband and the uncles relationship will be completely obliterated by this, and the kids are going to be right smack in the middle of it. (See all the complications with this?)

She should consult her attorney and further, she and her husband should consult a marriage couselor and try to work out their problems. If the marriage needs to end, then fine, but throwing an affair with his uncle is a big wrench into an already opened can of worms.

She sounds dazed and confused. If she's on her way to a divorce, and has the hots for her husbands uncle, and having an affair with a third party, she has some serious internal issues. What she needs is counseling. She also may be unfit to care for her children. Don't YOU stress out - bad, bad, bad! You've got to let this go. You'll drive yourself nuts. Don't abandon her, but she has to do the pain. She has created this, not you.

Tell your friend that she and her husband need to see a marriage counselor, with the hope that her husband will own up to his affair. I think she may be seeking another relationship because she feels betrayed. They can work out their conflicts with a counselor or at least face the prospect of divorce honestly. They can talk about the issue of the kids with that counselor too. She may be wrong thinking that her husband would try to take the kids away. A third party helps to think things through.

She needs to worry about her children and her marriage (or divorce) FIRST, and the the uncle later. She may think she's in love with this guy, but that's here nor there. He's not worth the risk of a very expensive and messy divorce.

Calm down...first, it's not your problem, so don't stress about it.

Suggest that she sees a counsellor...these professionals will help her with what she needs for her.

The uncle can wait while she takes times to figure things out.

Regardless, if she leaves her marriage for the Uncle, she will be still in the same family for functions and that would be really awkward.

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You cannot solve this problem, only she can. But, as a friend you can be a good listener, don't judge or take sides one way or the other, explain you appreciate her situation but don't have the answer, it is something she is going to have to "think" out well and maturely then decide.No matter what she decides, she would benefit from counseling but that is something else "she needs to decide on."

Tell her if she ever gets divorced never to marry again. And please teach her the facts of life:

1. There is no Santa

2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat

3. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)

4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)

5. Life is not fair

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Just be her friend. Listen to her and try to make her come up with a choice on her own. She should not make a choice by your word alone. Also some legal advice may help as well. Go with her for support but she has to make the final choise.

Her mother-in-law's first cousin is not her husband's uncle, it's his second cousin, not that it matters.

If she hasn't consumated the affair her husband can't claim adultery and have grounds to take the kids away.