early father?

wow how young? my idea- find those old couples with no kids and ask if they want a little baby. if u want ur kids, go get a job and raise them up

I'm a married wife of 10 years with 2 little ones both by the same father. The little ones are 23 months 13 days and 3 hours.

My husband became a father at the age of 19 and then again at 21. I became a mother at 20 and then again at 22.

Please take a deep breath and breath deeply clearing your mind of what single folks have typed (nothing against the single people).

You and your wife love each other very much and have a great love for your first child. So I ask this, do you and your wife have love for this unborn child? If so, what are you stressing out about. Yes it is alot in such a short time. But things always happen for a reason.

Short Story.....

My husband and I were not expecting our 2nd child so soon. Doctors warned us that I could die from having another child. This frighten us and we felt the only opinion we have was to abort this pregnancy. We were not able to. My doctors made arrangements to have specialist on hand to help with the post delivery of our second child. As you can tell, I'm alive and so is our second little one! They are Best Friends and help one another when and when it's not needed.

From the 2nd pregancy, I have become unable to have any more children. And my family and I are doing well. Everything happens for a reason. Even when we don't understand why at the moment of it happening to us.

SO BREATH! Deeply and Slowly.

It's not up to you any more. This is something that you and your wife need to decide.

Please remember that this is only my opinion (advice) on this.

First of all congratulations!!! I know it's kind of a scary thought at first, but it really is such blessing. For now, until the little one arrives just help your wife as much as you possibly can with anything she needs, but at the same time don't forget to take a little time each week or day and just do something for yourself however small, even if it's just an extra 10 minutes in the shower relaxing. I don't know how your wife does with morning sickness, but if it's as bad as what I had, try to help make the meals and/or feed the baby because just the sight or thought of food could be the end of her stomach for the day. Rub her feet or run her a bath, just do something nice for her every once in a while because as stressful and scary as it is for you, it will probably be just the same for her, but she also has the physical strain of a pregnancy again before her body had a chance to fully heal from the last one. You aren't very particular as far as what you want advice on, but financially, if the new baby is the same sex as your 9 month old that should cut you a break as far as clothing and what not, if not resale shops, garage sales, craigslist are all great places to get baby items. I actually managed to prepare the whole nursery and layette for my twins from just those three sources for the most part, not to mention hand me downs and everything I bought or was given was in perfect condition and i'd say I spent very very little on everything. Coupons are great and if you haven't already, sign up with all of the different companies for freebies, I can't even think of all the money I was able to save just by signing up with pampers and huggies and enfamil, similac just to name a few. If she bottle feeds and the baby doesn't need to be on a specialty formula, Sam's club has an excellent store brand formula for the best price I have found anywhere, it runs just under $20.00 for a 3 pounds can of powder which lasted me a week with 2 babies who were big eaters. Time management i'd say if you haven't already get you current baby on a schedule (which is also benefitial to the baby) and keep the schedule of the new baby in mind so make adjustments so that you can have a little quiet time in each day, for example make at least one of the naptimes match so that both children are napping at the same time for at least an hour and you should be able to get them both on the same bedtime since they'll be so close in age. My daughters both go to bed at 7 pm so that not only do they get a good nights sleep, but it's early enough that my husband and I can have some time together every evening. I usually make our dinner seperate and we eat together at 7 after the girls are in bed which is great, it gives us time everyday to reconnect with each other. Once your new baby turns about 6-9 months old, things could really settle down and may actually be easier in a lot of ways because the kids can each play with each other for at least short periods of time, not to say you can leave them unsupervised, but you can relax and just enjoying watching them interact, it is the coolest thing I have ever seen. Anyway, i'll quit rambling but good luck and everything will work out, it's really a good thing if you focus on the positives. By the time my twins were 9 months old I was wanting to get pregnant again. Congratulations again!!!

Of course you are trying to absorb all this, give yourself some time to. But in the meantime, until you have, try not to interject any (what could be taken as) negative comments, accidental or otherwise, to your wife.

I am sure at some point, she is also trying to absorb all this, i would of course assume this was not planned?

If you "love" one another, though this seems a real challenge, it will resolve it's self and your going to be fine. This IS what marriage is all about, the unexpected be it in your plans or not, you work together to get through it.

Hang in there, and take the time you need to deal with it mentally, and i am sure you will.

Wow some of those answers were rude! But I would enjoy every minute of it! And think of it this way they will be very close to each other and it will be tough at first but it will get better. When I had my second I read books about babys to my 1st and he was only 18mo and I told him I had a baby in my tummy and let him feel the baby kick and he loved it. He was jealous at first but now he loves his little brother SO much and they are very close. So congrats, and good luck!

There is nothing to do but step back and enjoy it. I still feel overwhelmed with my 2 year old and now my wife wants another. I am not wanting another until we are in a better financial position. But if it happens I will be hoping for a boy so we have a matching set and one of us can get fixed.

I had my first baby when i was 19. I now have 2. You gotta man up and work to support your family. Do your best to bring up bright head strong children. Offer them everything you can to support their dreams. They will give you so much more back. Dont get me wrong having kids takes all your effort but you'll be rewarded esp when they hit 3 years plus thats when you get to have a lot of fun with them. Take it a day at a time.

You already have one baby, and now you are about to have his baby brother or sister. Kiss your lovely wife and tell her how much you love her. I'm 41 and wish I already had grown children but I still have none. Be glad you are a young father now that you already are.. They can play together later in years and give you a break. Keep your head up and do the best you can. Good luck.

WOW MR. JONES, YOU SERIOUSLY NEED TO GET A LIFE FOR REAL LOSER. anyways, first off congrats, and second, it is overwhelming. you just became a father 9 months ago so of course you dont know what to say. what you need to do is just clear your head and think about the situation, then the right things to say will come to you. and make sure and be supportive to your wife or girlfriend, because she needs assurance from you too. good luck, and again congrats on being a father again:)

You have to take it as it comes. Talk to your wife about birth control methods after this lil one arrives.

It won't be easy, but accepting the truth that you are going to be a daddy again is the first step.

Don't let negative feelings interfere with the precious gift you have coming.

I think you will worry and worry until you look at your new babies face for the first time and see that everything is as it should be. Good luck and try to relax a little.