What should I do about Christmas?

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My parents live an hour away, his parents live 3 hours the other direction. I have to go to both on Christmas day. I want to spend time with my family because the last couple of months have been devastating because my brother died last month. I want to spend it with his family too because his mother is giving him her engagement ring to give to me. I am torn, and can't be in two places at the same time. Help???

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

We used to have that same situation.  So, finally one family agreed to have dinner at noon and the other at 6:00 PM.  It was still very hectic and we really weren't hungry when we arrived at the 6:00 PM home.  Better yet, was when we finally had one family on Christmas Eve and the other on Christmas Day. I love both families dearly and this was the best we could work out.  Fortunately, they understand.

sandy t · Answer

Maybe you could go to your parents house the night before (Christmas Eve) and spend the night there. Spend some quality time with your family and have a brunch Christmas morning. Then off to his parents. You won't be so stressed with all that drive time!

hilary duff · Answer

Spend it with your family, they need you now.  Your future mother-in-law should understand if she has a heart.  Your boyfriend can spend Christmas at his folks' house.  Next year go to one house on Christmas eve..the other on Christmas day.  All that traveling in one day will be too rushed and stressful.  I'm very sorry for your loss, I lost my brother too, cigarettes took his life

? · Answer

It shouldn't even be a question.  Your family is grieving the loss of a brother/son, who cares if the MIL wants to give you a ring, she should understand your position and see that during this difficult time your place is with your family---PERIOD.

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