I know I'm confused, but what else might I be?

its just a person. dont just dismiss him because he's male. if you like him, ask him out. there is nothing that says you can be attracted to both sexes. if you find that you're not sexually attracted to him after that, then you're just attracted to him cause he's a good person, and there's nothing wrong with that, you might find a really good friend that way. and what if you completely dismiss him, and he turned out to be the person for you and you never took that chance, just because he was male??? you have to at least give him a shot if you're at least entertaining the idea!

I say do what your heart feels. If you have the feelings for him then you need to pursue him. There are always problems in every relationship but in most you dont find out about them until a few months in. So at least you know all the probs up front. The only thing you should think about is that he does have 3 kids already. and if you do want kids later on in life is he going to want more? You never know if the relationship is gonna last for a long time. So think about things and maybe talk to him see where he is and what he's feeling. GOOD LUCK!

You might be bisexual, bicurious, or you could be homosexual. From the way you've described it, I think you have a pansexual attraction towards this man. That means that you are attracted to him regardless of gender. I don't see why you think he is off limits? You said he USED to date your friend's sister. If he doesn't anymore, she has nothing to do with the situation.

Just get to know him, see what happens. Try a casual relationship for a while, and see if you're ready to get into a long-term relationship with him, but make sure that he knows you might not be ready.

I agree with Mickey G. Take your time and talk to the guy. Don't be one of "those Lesbians". Make sure you don't miss out on a great relationship because they are not what you were expecting. Some of us ride the fence every time we become single again. I have had both men and women. I prefer women but if I am single and a guy is nice and we connect then I am open to suggestion. He and I usually end up as friends but that is me. Just let life happen and give him a chance.

thinking about jumping in bed with someone usually means your infatuated with that person but when you get butterflies thinking about him holding you that means love.

that's how i felt about my husband when we first started dating and honest those feelings haven't gone away yet.

and now I'm 21 seven months pregnant and happy as ever.

you said your not sure about getting into another relationship, well there no rule that says you cant take it slow with a man. and if he is the type of father you say he is then he will want to take it slow also.

also would if this man is the one, are you really going to miss out on the chance to be happy for the rest of your life because your afraid of hurting someones feelings who hates you anyway. if its the friend your worried about, if she is a true friend then she will stick by you.....

I say go for it. every one deserves the Chance to be happy

I think it's good to always be open to people regardless of who they are. You don't want to deny yourself someone who could be really good for you just because you though you defined yourself another way. Maybe don't try for a relationship with him at first, just go out some and see if that goes anywhere. Because he is so much older than you and has kids, that's quite a lot to deal with. Because you are still young and making decisions about things you shouldn't get too involved unless you try it out and find that it is right.

Sounds like you might be Bi.. Nothing wrong with that...

You may just be wondering what it would be like to be with a man also...

What you can do is just go with the flow and see where it ends up. You may come to find out that you like both men and women equally the same and want to be with both...

Who knows, the man that you might end up with might like that fact that you are bi and may welcome that into the relationship..

Good luck...

Take it from me (a random stranger from the net) you should defo talk to this guy about your feelings, as scary as it sounds, the worst thing you can do is keep it rattling round in your head, you'll end up going nuts. you need to talk to him. And as for the bi thing, you shouldn't label yourself as anything at your age, rather just consider that you are a young open minded individual, which i think is pretty damn cool. (don't forget to talk to him) good luck

If he's off-limits, he's off limits. Look for another special someone, guy or girl. You don't have to stop thinking about men just because you can't/shouldn't have him. Yes, you would be bi.

I think he has too much stuff going on. He use to date your friends sister and he has lots of obligation with kids and baby mammas.

You are feeling something no doubt. I would let this pass. Avoid him. Some men, if they know you are lesbian, will want to "make you straight" and "change you". It is some wierd fantasy of theirs. I have heard this from dudes before! Be careful!