Will it affect our chances of adopting?

I have evaluated hundreds of potential adoptive parents. The key questions here are:

1. What is your relationship with this person now?

2. Were you a victim of this perpetrator?

3. Did you know about the abuse? Did you report it?

4. Were you raised by the same parents?

5. Will you ever have any contact with this person?

The actions of others do not within themselves eliminate us as potential adoptive parents, but depending on your behavior, can. You are not responsible for this persons actions, unless you failed to protect a child or failed to report!

Above all else, be honest with the Social Workers conducting the Homestudy. Lying about such an important subject WILL get you eliminated.

Good luck.

Hi,

They will investigate the case that took place and the risk that any children they chose to place with you may be in but as you say this man has NO contact at all with your biological children, then there will not be a lot of risk.

I don't feel they can choose against you for this as it is not the primary carers - you and your husband - who were convicted of such a crime.

You just need to ensure that you follow all the procedures for the adoption and that may mean being totally honest about this crime that took place - it not nice to go into I am sure but it is something that will safeguard any child that comes to your home and the welfare of the children has to be paramount.

All the best with the adoption!

Lx

be honest and open they say honesty is the best policy and i just want to say good luck people like you even considering adopting someone elses child is challenging enough deserve a medal there is not enough i wish you all the luck in the world i can't see it being a problem as long as you didn't involve your children( if you have any) with this person i can't say 100% if it effect your chances but i would say 70% you should still be allowed because they look at the close knit family you are involved with so they should consider you

Good luck!!

Hello

My husband and i have just gone through the adoption process and have now adopted a little girl.i admit it did take a long time and they do go through your family history as it is all about the child at the end of the day.i'm sure they will realise you have lots of love to give a child and take that into account.i wish u good luck and let me know on here if u have any luck.

thanks

becky

it might, it might not but i should think as hes in prision if your upfront about it and dont try and hide it, it wont be an issue also you say you have kids at the moment so thats a good start as you said you also have no contact with the person and never will.

if they were that worried im sure they would get the police records for it and see for themselves but as it doesnt concern you two then i cant see it being a problem.

good luck.

Tell the truth; otherwise, it looks like you're trying to hide something. If you kept your own kids away from him, that will look good. It shows you know how to protect your kids. You might have to answer questions about how you would handle hypothetical situations when the relative gets out of jail. Don't be afraid, just answer truthfully.

I went through the adoption process several years ago and the questions are not that intrusive. I don't remember them asking anything about extended family. Only questions like why do you want to adopt, how will you raise/discipline the child, your relationship with immediate family, support, your relationship with husband etc.

I don't think that it will affect your chances, as long as there are some safeguards (and it sounds like you are taking those steps) in place to protect the child.

However, every social worker is different, and their report has a lot of power. All I can recommend is that you be totally honest. If they find out about this through other channels rather than from you, and it appears that you were trying to hide it, then there may be some effect.

Oh gosh..... No...

They look at you for you... I have a sister in-law with 5 DUIs and a mother who is an alcohlic. MY hubbys cousin just got of jail on gun charges, and his other cousin looking at jail time for misapropreation of funds. Our families are surrounded with scandel, BUT WE'RE great parents with lots of love, no criminal charges, no CFS reports, some teenage no nos. What matters is that you persever. And now able to provide everything a child could need.

As far as a homeestudy goes, just be honest, even if you think it may hurt your chances.

Good luck :-)

Not if you declare the fact as a concern; might actually speed things up because there is obviously a case file and as close relatives you have already been investigated.