how can i get over one of my ex's?

actually the only thing will be time and yes it's a good idea to talk to a professional. I was engaged to a fantastic young lady and lost her to breast cancer. I never felt more helpless in all of my life, wanting to help her but there's just nothing you can do. You'll make it , trust me .

I say go to a therapist / counselour very soon. I started going after a particulary painful experience in my life, and it helped considerably. Talking about it to someone who really knows how to help is amazing. I hope you get better =]

Hello. You don't need to get over it. Just embrace it as one of life's lessons and learn from it. Pain and sorrow are built in mechanism to help us along the way..

people die...

n you can't get over them cuz we alwayz have memories

so...

don't try to forget him...

make new relations ...

think tat he would want u to be happy n move on

WITH his memories

strengthen yourself

babygirl, he does not want you to keep reliving the night over and over, he has passed on, and he knows you need to moved on with your life. He will always be with you, but your hurting him by staying in the past. You are missing out on so many things that you could be doing great at. Just remember he is always with you, go one with your life so he can be happy.

well we cant hold on forever sometimes u have 2 let go and move on but i am not saying 2 forget about him cuz that would be too hard but just remember him in ur heart and go and have fun

You never really do. I put my ex's stuff and anything that reminds me of him in a box and I try not to take it out too often unless I'm ok with feeling really down. I try to keep myself busy and that helps, until its time to go to sleep and then theres nothing to do but think of them. I think the only thing you can really do is pursue your favorite hobbies and interests with as much passion as you can and stay as busy as you can, and the pain will always be there but it will fade until its only a dull feeling in your heart.

Well if people just say get over it they don't really care about your feelings at all! and to get over your husband try going on dates with other men and when you find the right one then you easily get over the death over your ex husband!!

Sorry to say, it never gets better. I completely understand where your coming from since I have the same situation. However, that does not mean that it should take over. They would want you to move on because its not living if you are still grieving over the dead.

a death is something you dont easily get over, especially if you loved jake. you'll date again when you're ready but a part of you will always remember and love jake.