I posted a question about my neice and her two daughters who were missing about a week ago?

My Dear Friend and Sister........

I am so very sorry that violence has intruded onto your family. I mourn your loss because I too, know what it is to lose......

Violence has become common place in our country and in our world. I so wish it were not so.....

There are no easy answers, perhaps no satisfactory answers at all while we grieve. The best we can hope for is the grace to endure and go on. Gail, I believe you have these qualities.

The Muslims are not only a different faith, but also a different culture. Most will probably not speak out, many because they live in fear themselves.

Do not be afraid to grieve. Get angry, cry, sob, pound the wall, throw your salt shaker across the room, whatever it takes to vent your feelings. Jesus understands the pain and loss, and at this time He will not deny your feelings. Embrace them in all their pain, they serve to show that you are still alive.

I surely wish I could take this agony away from you, but I can't. I will do all that I can to help you endure it.......

You have my email, I will give you my phone number or address. I will even drive to where you are.........no request is too much at a time of pain.

Certainly, I will have you as a focal point of my prayers. I will even hurt for you..........

God Bless you my friend.

Ylonda

I Bow Down Prayer Warrior

I can't begin to understand your suffering right now for your nieces. I am so sorry and I will pray for your family. Don't worry about the hurtful things people say on here. Some people have no heart and think that because we are anonymous that they can say what they please and it won't touch them. Well being spiteful in a time of such pain is an awful thing to do. How could a father look at his little girls and pull a trigger. what happens to his thought process, why didn't his love for them stop him from doing such a horrific thing. I will ask the Lord to help you and your family to understand this tragic time in your lives. And to wrap his loving arms around you and give you comfort. God bless you and help you, May his love fill your family and help you through all that is to come.

Those who are alcohol dependent usually have a whole set of issues that you alone cannot possibly hope to solve. And for anybody who thinks that getting drunk only on the weekends is harmless.... trust me, it's NOT.... and it's a sign that he needs professional rehabilitation. You clearly understand that your daughter deserves the best and you NEED that assurance that she will be safe in the arms of her father. There is NOTHING wrong with expressing this to him and letting him know that you can NOT, in all good consciousness, allow him to be in his daughter's life until he has given up the drinks and hanging out with the wrong crowd. You're both adults, but he NEEDS to understand and embrace his new role as a father. The days of drinking with his buddies HAVE to end because he's got a higher calling to accept now... and if he doesn't feel he's ready, then he shouldn't have access to his daughter. I know it seems mean, but trust me, it's all in HER best interest and every loving parent puts their child's interest before their own. Incidentally, if he really IS your husband, then you have every right to know where he is at all times. This whole "don't follow me" thing is bullşh*t because it means he's got something to hide and he shouldn't be hiding ANYTHING from his wife. Oh, and if you do happen to find his car somewhere it ain't supposed to be, note it and confront him about it when he's sober. Never confront him when he's three sheets to the wind because if he can't hold his liquor (... and it sounds like he really CAN'T), then you're gonna catch the brunt of his maladjusted side and trust me, you don't want that. He needs the ultimatum and he needs it now. If he's not willing to seek help IMMEDIATELY and seriously, then you NEED to leave him. There's really no other alternative. <")))><

I am so sorry for your loss.

Your question about why would he do this instead of being grounded is very simple; he was raised in a culture that is abusive to women where they suffer at the hands of the males for the slightest infractions. Having said that, men in all cultures (including ours) can be abusive like this too.

Talking to a boy is nothing horrible, considering how old the girls were, I would say that is normal. Obviously, this man felt he was losing his major control over the women in his family. There are many stories like this regarding women and how they are treated, it is nothing new. But it is getting old and wearing on me because I don't see women taking more control over their own lives. We must be wise.

We need to recognize abusive men for what they are and lock them up, prosecute them to the max. We must educate young women better so they can identify males that are controlling, manipulative and dominating. We must support women's shelters too.

I suggest, so that you can heal better, you find a way to honor and remember these girls while getting the message out to the public. You can do much; support battered women's shelters, support groups that help women escape these relationships and keep putting the word out there in the media too. The key is education.

We are living in the 21st Century, how much longer will it take to protect women and re-program men?

I did not see it either but i am truly sorry that some other children have found death on the side of the person they loved ' they trusted ' and to get tricked home is appalling and disgusting.I hope they hang the brother that lured them to their deaths' and hang the man who had them as i will not say father' as a father would not kill over a phone call he must of been loony already.I know the girls are not suffering now and may they be in peace in heaven forever.

Gail, I am so saddened by this..I had the chills and couldn't stop shaking after I heard. Had to go to bed and pray just to function today. I cannot even imagine the pain you and the family are going through. My prayers and everyone's prayers are with you and the rest of the family. What else can we do but lean on Him. Satan is also called the destroyer and he certainly does. God gives us a way out and I am looking forward to Resurrection Morning when we are going to have the biggest party and family reunion ever. (1 Thessalonians} It is not a forever good-bye, but, I'll see ya later. My heart is with you. xoxo Mary

Gail, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't understand how someone could look their own child in the face and do such a horrific thing. He will someday wether he believes it or not stand before God with what he did. He will answer for it and he will pay. The bible says that vengance is His. All of the muslim beliefs in the world won't change that. You are in my prayers daily sweet Gail, and I know you will find comfort in the Lord. We all love you and are praying for you .

Oh, honey, I am so sorry. This is a prime example of why I tell American or any nationality of women, don't marry a Muslim man. These types of stories are everywhere. Why can't people see it. Any woman who marries a Muslim man is putting hers and the life of her children in danger.This answer will be removed I know. But maybe someone will read it before it does and not make the same mistake. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. May God bless and comfort you.

Remember...He holds oer tears in His hands. He's with you through this awful time...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ef9jKHwHueQ

Honey I believe what you have said. What a terrible nightmare you must be going through. I pray that the Lord will put his arms about you and your family and that you will feel the comfort that He is a bout to give you . I pray that they catch him and the Lord will take care of him in a way that will teach others that these things have to stop. He deserves What ever the Lord has in store for him. I will be praying daily for your comfort, and that this nightmare will end soon. God Be with you my Dear one.. I love you and wish I could be there to hold you in my arms. and the Mother also. She is in my prayers always. Take care we love you very much.

OH Gail, I cannot absorb all that is happening in your sweet life. I am so sorry. Please allow me to edit & come back. I hurt so for the scene in my mind. God be with the Mother, she must feel awful for going back. Crying, I'll be back love~~~~

Gail I have had you and this horrible issue on my mind all day. I pray for justice for these young women. I am angry. How can we understand this action ? I guess I'm to old to think straight. My mind is just racing with thoughts of this monster Father. I may be wrong as a christian but my mind just screems out that he get caught and his cell mates give him plenty of cruel & unusual punishment while whatever ~~~~~ I hate feeling like this. How could anyone fall in love with a snake ???

God Bless you Gail ~~ and all the family of these girls. ~~