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Funeral Ettiquette?

I have a friend I've known since we are 12, I haven't seen her in almost 15 years, though we have kept in touch via email for the past year or so, and I recently found out her mother died of cancer and her showing is tomorrow night. Is it appropriate for me to show up at the showing even though I didn't know her mother? I really want to be there to support my friend and her family, but I wanted to get some opinions before hand about funeral ettiquette! Thanks in advance for your responses!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    If you are able to attend the wake, by all means do it. The cardinal rule of funerals is that they are not for the dead, they are for the living. Your friend would be delighted to see you and your visit would certainly help her feel better.

  • 1 decade ago

    I'm sure your friend would be touched if you would go for at least a few minutes. The funeral and visitations are for the family - and that's who you will be there to support.

    Don't make a big show or try to monopolize your friend. Just say a few words, sign the guest register. Stay a short time and then leave.

  • 1 decade ago

    Attend! Funerals and wakes are not as much about the deceased as they are about comforting the living. I'm sure your friend will appreciate your support.

  • sprite
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Going to a visitation isn't necessarily about the person that passed, but it's about the person/people you are going there to support. I would go and let your friend know you are there for her. I think she would be grateful for your presence.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Yes,it is a good thing to go,it shows your friend that you really do think of her,and care about what she is going through.

  • 1 decade ago

    It doesn't matter if you knew her mother, you are showing respect for her mother and support for her. She will appreciate it.

  • 1 decade ago

    It is certainly appropriate for you to attend to offer condolences to your friend.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    if she is really a friend then Moral support would be a good thing!

    Source(s): just a thought!!
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