Is this really true?

In the long run yes. It makes you a much stronger person in the end.

She sounds very unreasonable to me, if you are trying your best and she isn't trying whatsoever, does she really love you? You just have to bite the bullet and say your goodbyes, you will be over her soon. I know everybody must be telling you that, but you really really will be over one day. I promise you.

May I suggest you re-read what you've written and then think about it. You sound to me like you want and need to be loved, but this man isn't the right one for you to fulfill that love with.

I just broke up with my Significant Other of two years for the same reasons you are saying: W/we weren't good for each other and O/our relationship was going nowhere. So I decided to end it on New Year's Eve. He thinks I don't love Him anymore, but He couldn't be more wrong. I do still love Him and I know that He loves me too. But I finally had to make the decision to do what was best for both of U/us. I will always love Him, but I need more than He can give me and I'm not what He truly needs and wants. As time goes by He will see this, I feel sure, and come to accept that what I did was in the best interest for both of U/us.

So now go back, read what you wrote, and search your heart for the right answer. Don't you think that you will be better off with somebody else who will appreciate you for the virtues that you have to offer? Move forward with your life and go and find somebody new.

Good luck.

I believe that it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. It sounds like you and your ex are not meant to be, but you will not be happy until you let go and move on.

I've seen you posting on this site and you seem like a nice, together woman. Have you thought about seeking professional help? Maybe you should, you deserve to be happy. Good luck!

You are a giver and she is a taker. I know you hope she will become a giver, but She will never change. Move on Honey and find another giver like yourself. I did, and WOW what a difference in my life. 18 years of complete happiness. And I thank God every day I didn't stay with my ex from the distant past.

I promise you, I was in a relationship like that... and I stayed for a long time... I cried every day... it wasn't that they were a bad person, it was just that we brought out the WORST in eachother... and now that we are done, I am happier.... I have been with my girlfriend for almost 1 year, we never fight... I'm not the jealous, sneaky, cry-baby I thought I was.

I gave and gave and gave... I gave up my morals, my self esteem... everything... they gave... nothing. One day I got it all back and I left. Never looked back.

Best thing I ever did.

it sounds to me like youve learned a lesson aout the costs vs the benefits of love. I think its in your best interest to walk away. love is hard work but it shouldnt be a trial by fire. it takes commitment, understanding openness and the willingness to change if need be. If she isnt ready for that then theres nothing you can do to make her. keeo you head up though. when you least expect it, love will bite you in the *** again.

It sounds like each of you loves the person you WISH the other person was. A really good book to check out is Maryanne Williamson's "A Return To Love".

It sounds like you just need more time to heal and overcome. Just remember, in regard to your pain, 'it came to pass, not to stay.'

Good luck!

Yes, you are lost.