Do you assume that people who are celibate must have a lower "drive" than you?

as someone who is celibate..ill tell you my reason

im afraid of getting diseases..even if protection is used there is no 100% guarantee i would not get something. i was tested for STD's when i was 18 and came back clean.

also...being a sexual abuse survivor i honestly do not think i could handle having sex with anyone...im afraid that if i tried my mind would " trigger" back to that and i would freak out.

i already have some triggers i cannot really avoid that makes me think about all that....certain smells ( like pot) or songs ( anything by AC-DC ( i hate that music)..

but i can avoid sex and that trigger.

im only 29...and im not saying i will never have sex...but even after being celibate for 14 yrs...im still not ready.

It depends on the person. I don't think it has anything to do with the sex drive. There are different reasons why a person chooses to stay celibate. I have went without sex for almost 3 years because at that time I wasn't interested in a relationship let alone the fact that I was raising two children and working to get myself out of debt. Sure, I went out and had fun but sex just wasn't what I wanted then. So, like I said, it depends on the person.

I know a couple of people who are celibate, and I don't think it has anything to do with their sex drive level. They're introverts and don't need or want a lot of social interactions. I know they have the drive and opportunities but are just sick of the drama (I don't think guilt enters into it at all!).

I can't really assume that, how can you tell if someone has a low sex drive?

I'm celibate and my sex drive is low. I'm not celibate because of this though, but only because I don't want go through the drama and emotions that sex usually causes in premartial relationships. No sex until I'm married.

People are celibate for a number of reasons, just because they are doesn't mean they aren't interested in sex. I personally give thanks to God for helping survive 1yr and 6months of no sex/masturbation and its going strong!

No, many choose to be celibate, and not just monks either. I was getting over a failed marriage and had the opportunity to be with others but decided not to. The celibacy, which lasted over a year, allowed me to sort out my true thoughts without distractions. It wasn't always easy but I am glad and proud that I did it.

I'm in my mid 40s now, remarried and my drive is still high. I would recommend celibacy to anyone who went through what I did.

No, I don't assume, and anyone who did would be mistaken.

Anti-AIDS workers have found that people form sexual habits early in life, and these are difficult to change later on, regardless of the dangers to health and happiness.

I have a strong drive but was never in the habit of indulging every impulse.

My situation is that I had two marriages which both ended painfully. The second produced a dearly-loved child who needed my devotion, especially after a devastating accident when he was 8.

I had enough to cope with, recovering from my own traumas, and caring for and supporting my son, without adding the stress and time commitment of a love affair. I wasn't closed to the possibility, but I didn't meet anyone really outstanding.

There are other aspects of life which I find fulfilling in other ways.

EDIT: I forgot to mention, I took into consideration my son's interests - whether a man could be harmful to him, and the pain if he formed a bond with a man then we broke up and my son had to cope with losing him.

NO. I don't assume. Though I was married, celibacy was imposed upon me by the circumstances within that relationship. Now, that I have been single I am still not involved in any intimacy. I think I am motivated and have a reasonable drive. I just don't have the vehicle. And that would be a person who cares about me. I want more than sex, you see.

Now, for those who have opportunities, I would guess they are uninterested in pursuing intimacy because of some ideology. It may not be as needful as spending their time in other pursuits happens to be. It may be that they are taking a vacation and that makes them happier.

I wish that were my case and I may have to come to some theoretical position that will enable me to bear my circumstance with more grace than I currently am able to do.

C. :)!!

No, I don't assume that, although it's often true - most people who are celibate probably just are because they don't want to go out and get it.

But if you ask people who intentionally are why they're celibate, one reason often is that they feel like their urges are kind of out of control to want to stop that and direct the energy somewhere else. But also, they usually don't mean this to last for a whole lifetime. It's just to sort of reset.

Assumptions made about others are usually incorrect, that is why they are assumptions, not facts.

The decision to become/be celibate may be for a variety of different reasons. How somebody experiences their own world and interprets it, can only be unique to them.

So the question for me would be 'Is level of sex drive biologically inherited or culturally defined?' For me the answer is it is biologically inherited, so no matter what their lifestyle choices are, then it must remain the same.

In answer to your question No, no, no, no and no.

I would have a great many thoughts about someone who told me they are celibate.

Lower drive would barely be amongst them.

They might tell me they have decided that sex isn't worth the guilt, drama or work. But I would probably have a hard time believing those as the sole reasons too.