I dont approve of my bestfriend, bartending at swingers parties. what's next?

It certainly sounds like a scam to me. I have been to many swinger parties and hosted many myself and this is not a normal practice.

You can't make her not do this but be sure to tell her what you have found out in this forum. Actually, show her the comments made here. Hopefully she will see that this is not a good idea and it could lead her down the path to a very bad experience.

Sounds very dangerous to me!!!

Ginni

I would also be very worried, it sounds like a set-up for one of those reality porn shows. Strongly suggest that she says she'll do the bartending, but not the show. It also sounds a lot like a setup that if she does go this guys house, the bartending and money bait may be a load of bs. The whole thing sounds very fishy. Plus, if she's too embarrassed to tell some of her friends, then she shouldn't take the job, there's no telling who will be at that party, or what kind of photo cameras, or video cameras there will be (even just cell phones, or cameras the host has set up in his own home)

It may seem tough, but you just have to be supportive and focus on the positive things about her life. She needs support now more than anything obviously. Maybe you should go to the show w/ her or something. How bad could it be?

normally I'd say it is her life and you need to let her live it BUT

if he is talking about meeting up with her BEFORE she starts working these parties - it sounds more like he is a sexual predator (they are rampant on Craig's list) and she could be his next victim...

you need to be a good friend and bring this fact up to her..he lures her with the idea of great money...but it never gets that far....

I don't want to hear on the news about a girl who was found ina ditch - and the details they give remind me of this post...

I would just sit her down and ask her if she has really thought this through and if its really something that she wants to do. It sounds crazy to me. After that though you have to just be a friend and let her make her own mistakes. Good luck with that!

It's her life, let her do her thing, she wants to strip, or to "have a show", let her do it. She's not doing drugs, or anything equally dangerous. Support her. She's probably going through a tough time, or maybe just experimenting, but be supportive.

If this doesn't seem like something that should would do than, maybe she needs money really bad.

You might want to talk to her and try and bring her back down to reality.

Hope this helps

jake

it sounds like this is a sexual scam...this predator is luring young woman in with the idea of making lots of easy money...the girls think they are having a pre show,, in reality there isnt any show at all.....

maybe she needs the money for rent, car payments, or insurance? $1,500 is alot of money. the only thing you can do is hope for her to be smart and make the right decisions

I think you should voluteer to tape the show so that she will have a video to help her decide if she will do a show again.