Why are women compelled to always ask, do you love me?

I have to disagree with those who say it comes from insecurity. Just like men are visual, women are audible. Men know what their woman looks like naked but they still care about the delivery and presentation. Women may know they are loved, but they still need the verbal presentation and confirmation too. Fortunately, audible needs are easier to satisfy while the visual needs not so easy sometimes. It shouldn't be that hard to say three words.

I'm not insecure, neither immature, but I need to hear it too. I don't like posing it as a question though...I just do my cute/friendly reminders.

Well, if I turn it round, and put it to you, how would you feel if she didn't care if you loved her or not? What would that say about how she valued you (or not)? Women ask because they want to know, and because they have to ask to find out.

I was watching a young couple last night. I have been house sharing with him and a few others. She came round, and as far as I am aware they have been together a while, and he loves her, etc, etc. But she came round, and he just carried on doing stuff on his laptop. I, as a woman, picked up on how uncomfortable this made her feel. When she went upstairs, I think he realised. Men just don't do the things that indicate they love the woman. They are wrapped up in their little world of sport, or computer games, or music, or whatever. No wonder women need to ask if a man loves her.

I agree with Angie, but society has done a very good job of teaching women they are second class citizens whose worth is defined by how clean the house is, how well-mannered the children are, how big her hips are, whether or not her job affects her relationship with bf/husband, rest of family.

If you are in a serious relationship and you love someone, tell them, or else make it clear from the outset that you ain't in it for love. Apparently you may be doing something that is making the girls think you love them, so they are just asking to be sure. Or you are doing something that is making them feel as if they are not cared for so they are just asking.

Why does it bother you? Say yes or no, or explain that you are too early into the relationship to have such strong feelings, that you enjoy her company.

I don't know, it's not something Ive ever asked. My hsuband asks me it quite a lot though. But then he's always been much more demonstrative than I am.

I think it is partly to do with upbringing. My parents were not particularlydemonstrative and didn't tend to gush ona bout love etc, I think his were probably more emotional, so maybe it is a genetic thing.

When i was growing up I never heard " I Love You " and I always asked my Aunt and other family members if they " Loved Me " but now that i have my Daughter i don't need to ask that question anymore. i KNOW I have Love. and I have the Love of God.

See when you grow up not hearing I Love you. you think there must be something wrong with you. so you keep asking over and over then you know your loved for a while. then it starts all over again. God Bless

I like this question because the words "I Love You" are being so...how can I say this..."Played Out"...like it lost its value. I feel that they probably ask this 50 million times a day because it has lost its value in society. Any person can say "I love you, honey." to their partner but with the amount of divorce rates and break ups, it always seems like a lie.

hi dear this is deepika here,u seem to b a experienced man in a love relationship.heres ur answer u knw most of the girls are very insecure wit t relationship thy r carin wit.all girl lik to get pampered n try to think as our relation is gettin older i think he is losing interest in me.oh no he is gettin close to tht girl, oh no i m puttin on thts y he must losing interest in me.???see dear when the relation is new every thing is goody n sweet bt as it gets old u come to knw each other n ther are some things which u dont like abt ur patner n viceversa.n girls are very insecure cos they feel N no of reasons tht t guy may dump her n in ur case t girl need to ask u cos ur an experienced chap.ny ways ther r N no of reasons y t girls r insecure.make ur girl so lost in u tht she wil not feel insecure n t girl wil not ask do u love me,bt u wil keep on sayln i love u.take care n do reply me on deeps.love@yahoo.co.in

Maybe the particular girls you're attracted to at this point in time are a little insecure. Don't worry, I don't think most women are like that. I know I never was.

Because you men are not loyal, mostly women have to sensualise you to again make you loyal. That's why women need to ask this question, even if they know you love them. HOPE YOU DON'T CONSIDER ANYTHING WRONG in my answer. Just Chill!

This is an American disease. I hardly ever use those words and I don't like hearing them either. If someone loves you, you see it in their actions. In my country it is mostly used in poetry, and on very, very special occasions, definitely not on a daily basis. Here, it is said so often that it becomes generic, mundane and void of any meaning.

Shirley Valentine said: "I love you - they should bottle it and sell it..."