How can I make myself less sensitive to what others say?

This may seem a little korney but i wrote a poem years ago that i still live by...

Never regret the things youve done

and the people you recall

because obviously that was then

and youve made it through it all

forget about the neggativity

they were so sure youd live up to

and remember you did what you felt like

and thats always the best thing to do

Dont care when they say you are nothing

and as they look down upon your name

dont care when they say their better

when their nothing but the same

When you look back at anything

just remember that you followed your own will

and the lessons that you learned

you can apply to you life still

They may make fun of you

they may even torture you

but they will never amount to you

because you follow your heart

They may give dirty looks to you

they may even hurt you

but they will never be as great as you

they wouldnt even know where to start...

you live your lessons,

your learn your life

doing some things a little wrong

for you just may be right

Just because others don't understand you...doesn't mean you don't understand yourself.

It starts with how you see yourself. If there is no way you think the mean thing could possibly be true, then you are more likely able to shrug it off. If the comments are said to my face, I use the following comebacks: "Yeah, and your point is?" Or, "You say that like it's a bad thing". If I hear through others what is being said, I go straight to the source and ask if they would prefer to discuss it with me, since they do not seem to have a problem discussing it with everyone else. It usually stops the troublemakers..... they count on you getting upset over it and when you don't, they lose their power over you.

Have you ever heard of the saying, "It takes one to know one?" I believe this 100%! How can they recognize a fault if they do not possess one? The ones that are saying nasty cruel things to you or about you are probably suffering more than you are and that is why they are striking out at you. Give them your pity. A good example for this: A young woman I work with is always curtting people down behind their backs about their work habits. I found out she isn't very confident about her own job and it provides a distraction so people won't notice her screw ups if she points out everyone elses. I no longer let it bother me because I know her faults are far worse than any she can find in me.

Try not to over analyse or dwell on the comments. Focus on your life and engage in your social activities with friends who do not make you feel bad. Forget about those who try to put you down....they lose out on getting to know a nice person. Do not make the mistake these people make and decide never to exclude or make negative comments about others... lead by example and enjoy your life..

I heard that a beautiful rose is still a beautiful rose, even if you stand in front of it and hurl verbal abuse at it... That which is hurling the abuse is ugly....

Human nature are always sensitive to negative feedbacks. We can never totally ignore all those mean things others say about us. What I will do is ensure myself never do any mean things that other could say about me, treat these people well, and win them over.

1. Don't take it too personal

2. Grow a thicker skin

3. Improve your confidence so it wont affect you any longer.

But it's easier said than done. My skin is still trying to grow :(

And then I spend days and nights and wonder WHY my best friend constantly finds faults about me? So what I did the other day, was giving her the same 'compliment'. She didn't like it ... but that's just tough luck.

Try doing that the next time. Give back ... with a smile on your face. Hopefully the person will realise that what she said was unkind.

Well usually when people say hurtful things to me i seem to take it very personally and it makes me really sad sometimes. But i learned that i need to be more self confident and don't worry what someone did or will say to you because it shouldn't affect you just ignore them or think of the happier things and iy wont bother you

i used to be the same way. I would over analyze every little thing that everyone said. It really took a lot out of me. I think getting over stuff like that comes with age. But for now you really just have to tell yourself that it doesnt matter and move on. otherwise you will be stressing about it for no reason.

you'll have faith in your self and enable your assessment of your efforts and achievements impact your thoughts and thoughts ; no longer the comments and behaviour of others. continually do what your coronary heart and sense of right and incorrect say is the staggering ingredient to do and supply your suited attempt to what you do. Make your self , no one else , the decide of your acts and controller of your thoughts. you could not please absolutely everyone. each physique could desire to manage the naysayers and human beings that attempt to cut back us and our artwork overall performance. you're an excellent youthful guy able to achieving lots. My pal, I wish you the very suited.

Just remember that the only reason a person will say mean and hurtful things to another person is because the person saying them has their own issues. Or their jealous. And THAT person should have no room in your life.

It's a hard thing to do, you just don't like people talking about you. But one thing that always helps me is this: Will this matter a year from now? Will it matter in 5 years from now? Or will it just be a thing of the past? When you realize how minor it is in comparison to everything else in your life/world, it starts to lose its power.