ok, this is something very imp for me.?

1.If the kids are mature enough (which i'm sure they possibly are, considering they have seen their parrents split, mom running away etc..) then the dad should sit down with these kids and tell them everything openly. they probably would understand. if they do, then all well and good, he just pays the x-wife divorce money (legally even if he goes to court, he still has to pay something or the other to her)

now if the kids don't understand, then he leaves them and goes on with his life with this new woman. Because it's good to help.. but not to over help, if you know what I mean! (the man has already gone through a lot, he needs to fin some peace for himself now).

hope all goes well..best of luck!

how old r both the kids? my estimate is the eldest will be minimum of bout 15-16. that's old enough to have some maturity in my opinion... but still i suggest that the guy n his gf shud be a bit patient bout the whole matter... i know its unfair for the gf, but if she can do this for the sake of love then it might just be the solution..in the mean time the guy should work on getting a divorce. legally speaking the kids r not his. (obviously as he has not impregnented his wife).

If the wife proves this in court then he has no claim on the kids. but ya if no one know the truth then i guess he can fight for their custody... better stil he should talk to them n make them realize that he'd always be their fathe no matter wat n no one, not even the gf can come in between them the gf too, if she wants his kids in her life then she shoul try n win their confidence.

no matter what things should 1st be discussed btwn the lowers. the man has suffered a lot n deserves to live a happy life...

He should not have a girlfriend involved in his kids life until the kids are up and full grown. These children have been through enough than to be expected the confusing and hurt of seeing dad with someone else. His first obligation is to his children, part of that obligation is to insure they home life is not disrupted. If this man wants to date, he should do it without involving the children and just date outside the home. Sorry, but having children is a great responsibility and people should begin to take it more seriously.

how is this important for you? Is the person you're talking about your friend, neighbor, relative, someone you want to go out with, or are you part of this and are standing back from it all and wanting someone else to solve it for you, or is this something you have to solve for psychology class?

Every person has stuff in their life, baggage and problems and only communication and doing a lot of thinking just what they want and don't want in their life, and then presenting it and negotiating. It's nothing "you" can step into and tell someone what they should or shouldn't do. If the person "x" that you're talking about, after the communication and negotiation gets nowhere then the law takes over. Before the law takes over "x" should get some professional assistance to help him bring out what he wants to do or not do and why and see if it sounds or is a reasonable thing to do. Naturally "x" would be answering their own questions, but a professional psychologist will bring out all the right questions to make "x" think.

What she is doing leaving him, whether living with the other with whom she had relation or living alone? The kids have been taken by her or left on their own? But how is it going to be settled out of court? Since when does the other lady came into his life? The things may not be so easy, but try what best suits him, and even going to court may also be an option?

He's raised those kids as if they were his own for over 10 years. If he loves them as his own, he will get rid of the girlfriend, raise the kids instead of dating and focusing on women, and when the youngest turns 18 he can do as he pleases. This is in the best interest of the kids. Obviously, the wife is a waste of space and those kids deserve someone in their lives.

I feel this man needs to talk to his ex first and let her know what he knows....THE REAL TRUTH...and what he can do if he wishes to . I am not sure if this would be a tactical move or an unethical move but he surely has to take a call if he respects the new women is his life.

He could also garner support from his kids by telling them about his condition...telling them everything.....But surely, this should be the last option.

He raised them to be spoiled and love money. That is a tough habit to break. The only answer is tough love. The kids are used to controlling things and getting what they want...if they don't like the gf they will continue to be spoiled brats and think only of themselves and cause greif. That is why it is so important to raise your children when they are little so you don't have to put up with their mess when they get older. He made the bed...it will be tough for him to lie in it...sorry.

HELLO! Who told you that this person can use the ground of adultery & get divorce easily from his wife? Who ever told you this is definitely not a divorce lawyer! Firstly any adulterous relationship of his or her spouse which has been condoned by the victim spouse cannot be used by this spouse as ground for divorce from his or her spouse. This is well established law recognized by all courts in India & foreign countries. I can provide dozens of Indian & foreign judgments relating to this issue. In the present case this gentleman has condoned the adulterous relationship of his wife not once but many times (at least two times when she became pregnant out of such relationship & gave birth to these two children) & he had never complained regarding this even once nor thought of getting divorce from his wife previously hence it will be assumed that he has altogether had condoned her such adulterous relationship with other men. Now coming to the issue what grounds he has to get divorce from her, well her desertion of more then two years & cruelty are fit grounds for him to get divorce without bringing the issue of her adultery. Her ignorant attitude towards her children, her greed for money all shows her bad nature & mental cruelty towards him & her own children coupled with her desertion. He should use these grounds for his divorce. Any how I am really impressed by his good nature & humanity. Out of court settlement means this lady will demand large sum of money to agree for divorce by mutual consent,if this man is ready to shell out the amount she demands then that will be the best option for such case.

He can talk secretly with that unfaithful wife & show her DNA analysis & tell her if she doesn't gave divorse he will reveal details in court. I am not saying it will work but he can try. anyway kids will not be in court so may not know about this.