I need some answers...Am I wrong about this?

No, I think you're being reasonable. One thing you should do is talk to your wife about this and how it is not doing either one of them any good to let this behavior continue. I would suggest counseling for the daugher and perhaps family counseling for all of you. It's important for her to get herself together so nothing worse happens.

You and your wife need to set some boundaries with ms disrespectful...I would guess you pay the bills and wife helps. I don't know why you and daughter don't get along, but you allowed the behavior pattern to develop. At 8 yrs old, you could have resolved the dislike issues toward each other. Wife should have had some type of control as well. In my opinion, she was given too much freedom as a child that she created her own world. Time to get a little control back in your house. My daughter threatened to commit suicide once. I put that sh**t in gear quick. I told that I loved her with all my heart and I would miss her but she is not going to threaten me with that crap and give me the guilt trip. I even showed her where to cut if she ever decided to follow thru cause I wanted her to get it right the first time and cut the bull sh**t. I set some boundaries, let her know these were the rules and that was it. Tough love is hard, but say what you mean and mean what you say or else they will call your bluff. You are not wrong. Kick that little boys a$$ out of the house and don't allow him back in. I wouldn't give a damn who gets pissed, just do it. You are allowing him to disrespect you too.

That is a tough one. Really this comes down to what you and your wife decide. If you can't come to an agreement maybe a meeting with a therapist will help clear the issue a little. One question I would bring up to your wife is how does your wife's daughter's actions affect your son? Does your son look up to his big sister? Wow there are lot of "subplots" here - I am not a DR but I don't think I would allow that and would probably be pretty adamant about an open door policy if she is going to have male friends over to visit.

You're not crazy and after 10 years your wife should respect you opinion. It sounds like the daughter is immature for her age if she is threatening your wife with suicide attempts. I assume that your step daughter will be moving out soon being that she is a senior in HS so if your wife doesn't listen to you just hang in there and don't give the girl the satisfaction of breaking up your marriage. Good luck!

There is really not much that you can do with this disobedient girl she is so lost its to late to set rules on her, and its yours and your wifes fault for not putting your foot down when you both got married. But what you can do is tell your wife when her daughter turns 18 your packing her bags because she is so out of the house. So be a man and if your wife does not like it tell her its either her daughter or you thats going to leave, but you refuse to live like this anymore, that should wake your wife up!

Your not crazy no. But You Need to look out for your son and make sure that this destructive behaviour doesn't influence him

Unfourtanley there's not much you can do about the daughter but look out for your son and make sure this doesn't hurt him

Talk to your wife openly and honestly tell her what she's doing is destructive and that your wife is making it worse by allowing it

And that it's detrimental to your son

If need be leave with your son

This Behavior is not good for him

It's putting him at risk too but try everything else first

Try counselling together

Wow. I would think that as the head of your household, you have a right to tell her daughter, by marriage your daughter too, not to be disrespectful in your house. Not only is she disrespecting you and her mother, she is disrespecting herself. I would hope that they are using birth control, or you will have an even bigger problem on your hands. Take a stand, do not allow this to happen in your home. If you cannot resolve this matter, I'd suggest you both go see a couple's counselor.

it's wrong for her to use blackmail on ur wife but does that mean ur wife feels guilty for leaving her out of ur lives i mean she was small when u met her so i'm sure u could have won her over maybe she felt left out and now is trying to feel loved and needed by the bf go to counseling or try to get her in a youth group in church u can still turn this situation around if u want to

wow thatz rele messed up !!! i think u need to talk to ur wife about how u feel. Mayb u need to tell ur wife that she needs to keep all sharp things & things that the grl culd use to burn herself away 4rm her !!! She needs to learn that she isnt the boss !!! I mean like im only 13 & i knw that thatz wrong !!! & no ur not crazy!!! I wouldnt want to have sex every day 24/7!!! thatz just nasty & messed up !!! Talk to ur wife, & mayb u should talk to the daughter & tell her that she culd get pregagnt & tell her about all the responsibltys, & how the condom culd rip & shyt like that. & also u should talk to the 6yr old soon too, so she dont get a bad idea & she starts doing the same thing that other daughter is !!!

Hope it all works out 4 ya!!! Good luck

Your wife has allowed her daughter to have no respect for anyone or anything....She is a senior right? If she is close to 18 you can kick her disrespectful azz right out....and if your wife doesn't like it...tell her she can follow her daughter right out the door....