Valentine Scrooge!?

My wife and I agree with your boyfriend -- but with a stipulation.

The key questions are: Does he really treat you as if every day were Valentine's Day? Does he really try to make every day special?

My wife always insists that she doesn't want anything special for Valentine's Day, because it would be difficult to treat her any more special than I do from day to day. Sometimes we will give each other gifts on special days, but we never feel obligated to do so.

In many ways, Valentine's Day IS overrated. Why go out to eat on the same night every other couple is going out to eat? Can't you be just as romantic on Feb 21 as on Feb 14? And, if I find something nice for her in January, or have some idea that I think she'll enjoy, why should I wait three weeks to give it to her, or act upon it?

That said, many people look forward to special days like Valentine's because that's the one time they can anticipate being treated like they really want to be treated.

Bottom line: if he backs up his talk with his actions, then don't call him a Scrooge, but count your blessings. But if he DOESN'T back up his talk with his actions, then get rid of him, and find someone that treats you as special, seven days a week, 52 weeks a year.

P.S. Don't confuse "being treated well" with "being bought presents."

Well, in a way, Valentines Day is overrated and he may find the whole ritual dumb...if that is the case, he may be reluctant to receive any kind of "Valentine" gift from you because it will show that you feel committed.

That being said, if you feel that he loves you, don't give a present. Dress up sexy, cook a meal and plan a night together as your Valentine present. This way it's a good time and not a tangible gift that he might feel strange about. Besides, if he's a scrooge, he may not give anything to you...but he'd probably give you his love/body.

I agree and disagree with this.

I agree because when you're in a relationship, just about everyday can be a Valentine's Day if you're treating each other special.

I disagree because Valentine's Day can also be a day for confessing to crushes, being even more romantic, etc.

If you want to get him something, get him a simple Valentine's Day card or chocolate.

I'm very sure he'll appreciate it, even if he's a Valentine Scrooge.

I agree with him and anyways Valentines Day is very hard for us single girls in high school =[[. My bf dumped me less than 2 weeks before valentines day

I agree. Valentines day is overrated, but he's just being cheap. Don't buy him a thing!!

Well I believe that, too, but it's a part of society. He could at least do it to make you feel better. Perhaps try making him a card, not buying anything. Draw one or soemthing and tell him that every day is special and you love him. :-)

I believe its overrated too...I dont think we should celebrate one day a year to prove how much you love each other...why can you not do that every day....?

what a jerk!

a man should always get his girl something for valentine's day

i think that he doesn't wanna give u anything...and is making up for it with that line...that every day is special

My ex was that way too...he just didn't want to get me anything, which he didn't. Don't let that "everyday is special" line fool you.