Fairness in picking a reception site?

if you love the venue then i suggest you go for it! you aren't asking anyone to do anything more than anyone else so it seems to me to be a reasonable place for your celebration! and a two to three hour drive isn't enough to warrant the need for a hotel for anyone unless perhaps they were handicapped and tired easily! anyone who can't be bothered to drive for that short a distance can stay home! your family and friends won't mind it at all i am sure, it seems to me you have hit on a very reasonable place.

wishing you the very best marriage!

Since the majority of the guests are from the same town it'd probably be better to have the reception somewhere there and then just get your mother's family to stay down in a hotel or something. The out of town guests will be expecting to drive anyway- the ones in the same town of you won't necessarily expect to.

2 and a half hours is a fair way to drive- especially home after the reception. Unless your guests are prepared to pay for accommodation in a hotel.

If you truly want to have your wedding at the Toledo Zoo, then that's where you should have it. My good friend had hers at the Minneapolis Zoo in front of the dolphin tank; it was wonderful.

This is your day and your husband's day. Have it where you want it the most. And when you tell people where it will be, tell them how much the location means to you. They'll be excited for you and hopefully not mind a bit of a drive.

Do have a hotel option for them, though. Get a block of rooms locally. That way people can have fun and just stay in town. And you and your husband can take it easy, too.

quarter-hour isn't something! In maximum cities, the reception website is a minimum of a a million/2 hourpersistent from the church! you're inviting adults. in the event that they are too stupid to drink in all fairness, that's no longer your fault. Your mom might desire to supply her travellers extra credit than that! in the experience that your wedding ceremony is at 3 pm, and your reception starts at 5 pm after pictures, the dinner will take in to 2 hours and then dancing is in many circumstances over at 11. maximum travellers start to leave via 10. some vehicle pool, others supply up ingesting at 9 and start up ingesting water and espresso. maximum persons are clever sufficient to have the two spouse or husband drink wine with dinner, then be the precise driving force. Your mom is over-reacting. you're a bride, no longer a babysitter and should no longer compromise your dream "basically in case" a number of your mom's travellers "might" act like fools.

Given the 2 1/2 hour drive time...I'm wondering i f many people will come. The families of course will and close friends..Would It make any sense to have a reception at the location the ceremony is to be held - and then an open house the next weekend maybe..at the other location. Just a thought...this would give each family a chance to "show off" their kid and the new addition to the family!"

... have fun/enjoy! ♥ ♥ whoops cross that all out...I totally mis-read the question!! da...

I really think if you are going to make people drive a far distance to your reception you should consider a place that has a hotel. Like Las Vegas. Pick a place that you can have your honeymoon at, and a place that people would want to visit, and stay at for a couple of days. If I had to drive 2 1/2 hours, I wouldn't be too happy if I were your family, and if I was a friend, I wouldn't attend your wedding. That is just too far away. I would go with 30-45 minute drive. TOPS.

Good for you I am so proud of you for being so practical and not having alcohol you DONT need it A reception at the zoo would be different and cool what will you have for lunch? Also I applaud you for being considerate and not acting like a selfish, spioled bridezilla like some brides are please it is a wedding no more no less. Best wishes:)e4g

we're planning on having our wedding and reception equal distance for both families on lake michigan (about 3 hrs for everyone)... I think people on either side would complain if the other family doesn't have to drive as far... like if the bride's side only had to drive 20 min and the groom's side had to drive 2 hrs...the groom's family might complain

That is very thoughtful of you but don't let anyone dictate where you are having your wedding. I have a friend who is having a problem where both her's and her fiance's family are saying 'have it here so we don't have to travel far' and she doesn't know what to do because no matter what someone will be inconvenienced. So I said 'just have it where it means the most to you and where you two really want to have it'. I said 'it's your wedding, not theirs and if your wedding is important to them they will travel to be there'. Just give them plenty of notice so they can save for travel and lodging and get time off work.

I think either would be nice so you choose what means the most to you. Happy wedding!

Have your reception wherever you and your fiance want. If you want your reception at the Toledo Zoo, then do it! But don't choose it just to accommodate your mom's family. By shortening their drive time, you're requiring that everyone has to drive over two hours. That's fine if that's what you and your fiance want, but I wouldn't do it just to accommodate some family members.