Seperated and getting divorced.?

Don't be alone!!!!

It will take time to move on. Not only has your marriage ended but the results have heightened your insecurities.

try to focus on YOU and making your life how you want it. Don't contact your ex. If the urge hits, call a friend or your folks or simply go for a walk.

Go on vacation, join a gym, go back to school.

KEEP MOVING FORWARD!!!

Go see a Doctor.

I was going through something similiar just not nearly as bad and went for insomnia. I work nights and I was actually losing sleep over this. Well in addition to getting something for sleep the Doc also prescribed Lexapro for depression. It took a couple of days to start taking effect and immediately i was starting to see serious results. I still have moments where I may think about my wife and our separation, but those episodes don't happen much more or last quite as long.

While its hard, accept the fact that she left and has moved on. Understand that going through relationship troubles and miscarriages really changes a woman emotionally and sometimes, getting out of their current life is their only way to cope. Sometimes looking back and developing an understanding of the situation helps to move on.

Sounds like she really trampled your heart. Know that you are worthy of someone that would never be cruel to you. She is out there and your life will be even better. Look forward to that someone and get yourself ready for when she shows up!

My heart goes out to you. Good luck!

It just takes time. Having just finalized my divorce last week, I'm still in the process of moving on and finding myself. Hate and anger will help you a little to move on but you will have to let go of that eventually. I had been separated since May 2007 and now I'm beginning to let go the hate.

The best thing you can do is to get exercise and better yourself. I just joined a gym and I'm working on getting hobbies that will let me meet other people.

If you want to get revenge on her, then get yourself up and succeed. Everything will come together and you will meet someone you deserve and she will appreciate you for who you are. It just takes time.

Just remember, you are not alone. There are many of us that have and are going what you are going through.

first you have to realize that blaming you for everything, is her way of justifying what she did. you need to look back at yourself and find the things you can change in the future. man don't let the c*nt ruin your life. from what you said, she wasn't worth you in the first place. there are many parts of grieving process that you will go through. self doubt is part of it. the thing that helped me, was talking with good friends about the situation. hope this helps some. good luck and know that things will get better. JD

Understand that sometimes you choose the wrong person and it doesn't mean that you are at fault. Sometimes two people click with the same wants and beliefs and sometimes they don't. It comes from being two givers instead of one being a giver and the other a taker. You will find out inn time that you just made a wrong choice in life. That special someone is out there and you will just need to keep lookinng for her. Good luck!!

I can't tell you how to move on. I can't tell you why the pain is so incredibly devasting, but I can tell you you are not alone. I am very much in the same boat. It's a little different...my husband moved on with my best friend while I was pregnant with our 2nd child. But we were together for 10 years and I loved that man with everything I had.

Keep keeping on. I have to believe that God has a greater plan in store for me, and I pray He does for you too. My heart goes out to you.

hello there , i really for you , i was seperated from my husband for 8 months and him and another married women both got murdered, 10 weeks ago, so i went threw some pain let me tell ya first to find out that your husband was killed , then to hear with another women , in his bed, they where coworkers, a double homicide, and thank god i was cleared , her husband new about the affair as i didnt, life does go on im getting better everyday, but i still loved my husband very much so i know what your goen threw , there is a new door that is gonna open for you trust me , it will happen for the both of us take care and if you need someone to talk to email me jewels

I think you need some counseling to help you deal with these feelings of betrayal and loss.

You are grieving, and that's very normal, but perhaps you are getting stuck there and need professional help to assist you to move on

It sounds to me that she wasn't worth having in the first place, and your pain now may mean that you miss an opportunity to be with someone decent who can really make you happy.

You don't want to give your ex that sort of power do you ?

Good luck with this, and please, get help.

being separated from our unfaithfully spouse is just like you breath a fresh air and get drawn in the same time.. i know how's your feeling ... even you are still in love to her but her reaction and the fact, you've find out recently about her pregnancy it's hurting you so badly.. she's know nothing about love, cos she just throw away and dump you for another short term love .. believe me she'll get her karma... my advice. just keep moving..it's your life, never let her ruin your world.. she's not worthy... just keep moving get your dream ..forget about her and your past, start brand new star.. you've got my sympathy