When is enough, enough?

My sympathies to start. No one deserves to walk through life in a relationship that just isn't working, or seem to have any future.

She needs to realize that she is either with you, or against you. There is no middle ground here. If she wants a better life, it isn't solely up to you to give that to her. She needs to wake up, get off her backside, and start contributing to this relationship. If not, one day she WILL wake up alone.

You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. I think you know exactly who you are. And, that should be commended.

My advise is this: You need to get out and make yourself happy. Join a club or organization. Somewhere that you can go alone and meet other people. Your happiness shouldn't be defined by her's. If she wants to be happy, it's up to her.

I'm not suggesting that you end your relationship. That's up to you. But, you shouldn't also have to stay in a relationship that doesn't have an environment that enables growth.

Good luck to you, my sister. My thoughts will be with you today. Happy Valentine's Day.....just in case no one else says it to you.

Oberon

You will need to determine for yourself if the relationship is worth salvaging.

Since you have been with her for 5 years there is one thing you should try before throwing this relationship away.

Try communicating with her. Try doing it in a respectful way where both of you can maintain your dignity and not get angry. You should let her know how you feel about this relationship and where it is going.

Communication is the key to keeping any relationship alive and if you find you just can't communicate anymore then moving on is the best alternative.

Hon, it sounds like you need to get out and find some happiness on your own. Happiness shouldn't depend on someone else. It should come from within you to be shared with someone else. It sounds like you're both not happy in the relationship (even though you may still love each other). AFter 5 years in a healthy relationship, you should both, for the most part,. be very comfortable and happy with where you are. Good luck finding your own happiness and someone willing to share it with you.

Shut her off from the cash flow. Time to get away from this one. If you're unhappy and in a bad relationship, get out of it. There is no shame in that. Find someone with some drive that makes you happy because she wants to, not because she feels she deserves it.

Sounds like she needs to see a shrink, not to be mean, but geez you sound like a nice person, don't let her drag you down into the abyss, dating a guy has nothing to do with any thing, maybe it's her that is confused and wants to be in a hetero relationship? good luck chick!

Walk away clean, girl. She has made "enough" appearant. You don't need her to feel inadequate. You can do that well enough on your own. But I feel you will do much better on your own. You say yourself, "I am 100% unhappy." There's the clue. I would say,"Sorry it's on Valentine's Day," but better late than never.

Sometimes we have the answer on our hands and we dont even notice. You have the right to be eternally happy. Keep being yourself and keep on the road that teachs us how to find real love, showing that you have to start loving yourself in order to start loving anyone else.

Hugs.

yes, dump her and dump her now. you aren't happy, she isn't happy, she berates you and you don't like it. why in the world would you want this life. dump her, find a nice girl that will appreciate you and make you as happy as you want to make her happy.

do it, dump her now.

I think you know the answer already .... time to move on !

well break up with her and find someone who can except u for who u r!!!