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Can you raise your children as Catholics when one parent is not?

My boyfriend is a Catholic and I was raised Christian. Does it matter that I am not Catholic?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Yes, the children can be raised Catholic and your boyfriend is obliged to make sure that they are. It doesn't matter that you aren't Catholic. In fact, as a Christian, you already agree with most of what Catholicism teaches.

  • Daver
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Catholics are Christians!

    A Catholic parent, even if the other parent is not Catholic, is obligated to raise their child(ren) in educating them in the Catholic Faith.

    If you wish to aid your boyfriend in raising children Catholic, this presents a great opportunity for you to learn something about your boyfriend's Faith. Even if you don't subscribe to Catholic belief, havign a better understanding of it is still a good thing.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes, it can be done. You may encounter difficulties, though.

    In order for your marriage to be valid in the Catholic Church (important to him, if he is a practicing Catholic), you will need to agree to be 1) open to the possiblitiy of having children, and 2) to raise said children in the Catholic faith.

    This will require the children to be baptized in the Catholic faith, confirmed, and receive the other sacrements as mandated. They aren't required to attend a Catholic school, although Religious Education (R.E.) is a requirement. Many mixed-faith families attend religious services of both faiths. For some, this draws the family closer; however, some encounter major obstacles. Being a Protestant-Catholic relationship, you share many of the same beliefs, which will help tremendously (as opposed to Christian-Jewish, Catholic-Muslim, etc).

    The choice is ultimately up to you. I am also undertaking contemplation of raising children in both Protestant and Catholic faiths.

    Source(s): Google Books, "Coping in an Interfaith Family": http://books.google.com/books?id=wpdvQYrYk0gC&pg=P... Interfaith Marriage article: http://family.jrank.org/pages/898/Interfaith-Marri...
  • No people can raise children even without religion.

    "Can you raise your children as Catholics when one parent is not?"- Yes! You mean the paperwork to send your child to Catholic school - no the school will not care - just fill out the forms and talk to the principal.

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  • Misty
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Yes, you can. When you get married, your boyfriend (then husband) would just need to agree to have the children baptized Catholic and then participate in their religious training.

    My daughter is marrying a non-Catholic this fall. He has agreed to have their children raised in the Catholic church.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I am assuming your engaged or planning to get married, if that is the case then you need to sit down and discuss how the two of you want your children brought up. Also Catholics are Christian, therefore your problems may arise in history and tradition.

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes.

    Many family meet this challenge.

    The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-Catholics.

    Because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge that the interfaith couple will face, they may have to get permission from the bishop.

    For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, sections 1633-1637: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2sect2chpt3a...

    With love in Christ.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just be cautious. I got involved in this and I lived to regret it. My husband's Catholic, but he wasn't too serious about it until the kids came along. Suddenly it was quite meaningful to him and I became more and more put off by the beliefs. They aren't mainstream Christian beliefs. For example, women don't have much of a place in the CC, and I have 3 girls. I hate raising them in a religion that limits them right off the bat. Also, there's so much mysticism and ceremony. It's a bit hard to swallow. So I had to choose how to handle all this when it was really too late. I got very honest with my girls, but his influence has been stronger, and now my children hold beliefs that I find laughable. So, think long and hard about this.

  • Tasha
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Yes. Both parents need to agree to raise the children Catholic, but it is not a problem. I have seen many couples in my parish who have children that are being raised in the Faith, and years down the road, the parent who is not Catholic decides he/she wants to participate in the Sacraments with their family. I hope things work out well for you.

  • Vampie
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    My friend is a Catholic and her husband was a member of another Christian denomination.

    He had to convert to Catholicism before they could get married in her Catholic church and baptize their baby.

    Perhaps in other churches it wouldnt be required but it was required for them by the parish priest.

    And you could raise your child with Catholic beliefs I suppose but baptism might raise issues like it did for my friends.

    P.S: Catholics ARE Christian. Its a denomination of the religion.

    Source(s): Atheist
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