My m-i-l wants my husband to pay for her divorce?

Anything your mother-in-law wants to do is financially her responsibility. I got divorced from my first husband for $185. It was an amicable, uncontested D.

Is she going to want your husband to pay for her new house and new furnniture and groceries and utilities and taxes too? It is a big decision, and while she needs emotional support, she is old enough to be responsible for the financial aspect.

the answer is probably a yes and a no. granted she is right about if she sold/pawned her jewelry, it's highly unlikely she'd get the real value for it. i'm not sure where you live, but in most states the divorce costs can be put onto whomever has the money, or taken out of the "property" once the divorce is final. so unless she's asking for monetary help towards hiring a lawyer, or filing costs, i wouldn't be handing over a checkbook. in fact, i'd just go with her, pay and sign for myself. that way there isn't a question as to how much and where the money is going.

well I am sure when hubby was growing up mommy paid for tons of stuff I feel nothing wrong with kids helping out thier parents when they are grown.

I think maybe you should raise your sons to do the same and one day you will be thankful.

I have a different culture and so do many of my friends a mexican guy who was doing work in my house told me just yesterday how his mom does not work anymore she had ten kids and her sons take care of her she travels all over the place and is retired. I thought it was wonderful and I hope my son and daughters do the same.

So be proud to help and show your kids to help you that is what family is for.

going back to the divorce no one needs a lawyer for a divorce you can file on your own period. if there is no kids involved it is not a big deal my guess is she does not own anything otherwise she would not be asking you for help so tell her just to file the court filing fee and call it a day!

Yes you're being manipulated. Manipulate back and just tell her you don't have the money. I don't care if you live high on the hog and she KNOWS you have the money...if you say you don't have it...she'll HAVE to accept that. If she really wants the divorce...she'll come up with the money...you just watch!

I have two grown children and I can't even imagine asking either one of them to pay for my divorce. I'll stay with the guy and suffer through it rather than put that kind of responsibility on them.

You sure are being manipulated. My husband is a mommas boy and I have seen the same kind of things with them. Her relationships are her problems. do you think she would pay for your divorce? If it is a money issue she can get the stuff she needs to do it herself and only have to pay a filing fee. I sure wouldn't pay for someone else's divorce.

Good luck

Sorry Charlie, You Mom is playing the Victim in this game.

Your Mother got herself into this mess, Let her get her self out of this mess. Be there to offer a shoulder to cry on or moral support. Your MIL is a big girl. Let deal with this on her own or with her Ex. You or your husband didn't cause the divorce.

so you and your husband should not be paying for it.

Well, I can see why she wouldn't want to sell her jewelry but it is in no way your responsibilty to pay for her divorce at all. Infact, that should be coming out of THEIR shared assets. If they can't afford lawyers, they should do it themselves. I think you are being manipulated.

Tell her that your finances do not allow for the cost of this and she would have to sell her jewellery in the divorce anyways all assets get cut in half. If she wants a divorce she can darn well pay for it herself.

No, YOU are not being manipulated, your husband is. Is he seriously considering falling for this line of bull? Tell me he isn't. Please.

Here is the deal: You two are married now, and that means "his" money is "your" money, too. If he chooses to bail his mother out so she won't have to undersell her jewelry, that will be taking money out of YOUR pocket, and you shouldn't stand for it. Period.

Its her divorce why would you guys pay for it!! You can support her but that is her own problem I think.