I need some advice, please help!?

you aren't wrong to feel this way - you feel like you are being used, and not appreciated.

All you can really do is

1) ask to start paying for petrol if seh expects this to be a permanent arrangement ( but that sort of locks you in too)

OR

2) tell her that x wil be the last day you can take her in.

alternately, you could ask when she expects her car to be ready, and make that the last day you take her in.

You don't owe her a reason. or an explanation, Just "I won't be able to take you to work after pickadate."

remember no explanation- other than you won't or can't do this anymore.

Yup she's taking advantage. You could ask when her car is getting sorted, and let her know that you would appreciate some petrol money towards the lifts you are giving her. You are not being selfish, if it was me I would be giving that person some money from the word go. She is saving a hell of a lot, and a bit of appreciation towards you would be a good idea. The other thing you can do if you can't manage to confront her is tell her your car is in the garage, store it at someone else's place for a while, and then she is forced to take the bus or find alternative transport. It might be an inconvenience for you for a bit to take the bus yourself, but at least you don't have to drive her. It might push her into doing something about her own car.

And be sure to ask for some lifts when she finally gets off her bum - don't offer petrol money if she never did for you though! Good luck.

Let her know that while you don't mind giving her a lift to work, you only offered because you were being helpful for a few weeks. The few weeks turned into months and you don't want it to continue any longer. Don't ask her the progress on getting her car. It is rude of her not to offer for gas since she is saving money, but if you use that as an excuse, she will probably come up with the money daily, and then you are still giving her rides. I never lie to spare someone's feelings. You can be honest in a polite way. If you don't mind doing so, offer a lift to sort out her car business, like taking her to the bus station to pick up a schedule or car dealorship. But only do it once. Good luck!!

Its not your fault.

Maybe you should tell her that it uses up alot of petrol and its too expensive for you. Or some other excuse that makes her pity you.

OR make your car the worst place possible so that she doesnt want a ride in it.

OR avoid her as much as possible and drive home before she can ask for a lift. If she asks you about it, then say you forgot. Keep doing this till she cant take it anymore.

OR tell her firmly that she cannot take lifts from you anymore. Please go take the bus, you waste my time and money. You could do this over email or on the phone... in person would make things very awkward.

I think your reaction is pretty normal at this point. I'd be frustrated too. If it were me, I'd handle it one of two ways. First, I would start making a point about asking her about how things are coming along for her getting a car and I'd start asking about it every day so she'd be sure to keep the idea in her head and know that it's in mine too. Second, I would start making it as inconvenient for her as possible. The lifts would be totally on my schedule and I'd ignore her little comments. I'd change the time every day and if she wasn't there I'd drive off. She'll get sick of that sooner rather than later and will want her independence back and get herself a car.

So bring up your doubts...Phrase it as a question like "So how is your car trouble coming along?" She'll have to think of something, and if it doesn't seem legit, look at her doubtfully. If she sticks to her story, then there's not a whole lot you can do-either "get over it" or start talking to her-explain that you're irritated and/or demand repayment.

Or be the model co-worker/pushover and keep doing it. She'll probably eventually get sick of....oooh that's what you could do if she's really getting annoying...start annoying her back.

Good luck and try to be nice about it.

ok so, you are tired of a person hanging on you everyday for lift. and it seems you had much inner dialogues than outer. I mean you get furious inside your heart and which is giving you more pain.

She stays in your street so you cant avoid her, secondly you just cant tell someone on face to get lost, that wouldnt be nice. third you never askd for fuel money but what would you be doing if you went alone obviously fueling yourself.

So cool down, instead of becoming angry at the situation just be with it for time being and it will change. just believe that as you carry spare wheel in your car same you have to carry her for sometime. Just have inner peace. it is doing more harm than good if you keep thinking this way. There is a saying "If you cant beat them join them"..........

no, you are not selfish. But, in order to avoid a potentially ugly scene with this woman, you should tell her that your car is "out of service". Then you youself will be looking for alternate trasportation to work. If this doesn't get her car fixed in a hurry than nothing will! Even better if you can "ride" with a friend or ride the bus for a couple days. Just a way to re-arrange the transportation! (People tend to get too comfortable if they are not pushed to change!)

i'd suggest to her that she start taking the bus because of the stain of knowing that when you're running late she is too and it's becoming too much of a mental hassle dealing with it everyday. lol i thats all i could think of for a excuse sorry. but yes she is using u if she was really greatful she'd atleast offer gas money. so stop being super nice/polite and the next time she says something so rude tell her that she can start using the bus if she doesn't treat u with a little more curtasey (yea i dont know how to spell it.)

happend to me at school same thing. I told the guy that I wasnt going to have the car for long because a family member needed it and there you go. He took the bus and I kept going to school he never knew i had the car until i graduated from highschool then he was like you never told me you got the car back i said "oh yeah got it back last week"