Am I right to be upset, or is it hormones?

its not normal at all and been pregnant wont help your emotions. let it all out at him first it will make you feel better and then do the rational talk thing. dont get too stressed out cos of your baby. i caught my hubby on porn when i had my first baby he was staying up till all hours while i was in bed 7 months pregnant. it made me feel repulsive and fat and i just threw the computer in the garden-it broke and all i said was it will be your clothes next time-seemed to do the trick hun. xxxxxxxxx good luck

I dont think its nothing and you shouldnt let it go but u shouldnt make it a bigger deal than it really is. Sometimes when u feel that u have been in a commitment for a while and especially with a baby coming u feel stressed that ur life as u know it is over and u'll never have a chance to do anything exciting again. Your husband is only trying to find excitement in a way that he thinks is harmless and only imaginary but he needs to know that he's not flirting with a computer he's flirting with a real woman. I think u should have him sit down for a serious conversation and tell him that you found out. You dont necessarily have to tell him how he doesn't deserve an explanation ur the one who needs one. Ask him whats making him seek romance elsewhere and tell him that u will not tolerate such behavior. DONT tell him that he cheated on u because he didn't..yet. make sure it doesn't come to that.

I met my husband on a chat room. We've been together for 8 yrs now however I know what is like to flirt and have a bit of fun online. It is not that innocent and your partner shouldn't do it. I talk from experience coz I was in chat rooms at all hours and I met so many different people: married, single, divorced etc etc and there were lots of things going on in there.

I saw few couples destroyed over internet flirts and in my opinion it's not always just a bit of fun. It is kind of addictive and it can be a hard habit to break. At this stage in your life, being pregnant, you need support and love. you don't want to look back at your pregnancy with stressfull memories.

HMMM this is a toughy!!!

It could just be that he is just playing around and that there is nothing in it but dosn't think that you will understand so he just hides it from you.

You can't really tell him that you know what he is doing cause you went behind his back and looked which says distrust.

Next time you catch him playing that game then just play dumb and say to him are you playing that game again it kind of looks fun can you teach me how to play it and then get all silly with it and do what he does (im guessing in this game you can kiss and have sex and stuff) well do it and have a laugh and then he may realize that you are not too worried about what he is doing. Just a thought.

My partner was doing similar things when we had IMVU chat we have since gone back to dial up so we can't use it cause dial up is just too slow. Anyways thats what I did to get him to show me and open up to me on what he was doing and he said he was doing it just for fun and would stay up all hours chatting to girls and flirting with them I went through feelings like what you are going through. He swears there was nothing in it and they are just avitars and it's kinda like making a movie i guess.

hope this helps

In my view, it's still cheating. It's not physical cheating, he isn't leaving the house and going off and finding another woman - but it's emotional cheating. Tell him you've found it and demand an explanation. It's not just "nothing" its you and an unborn baby that demands respect!

Stand up for yourself hun :)

doing it in real life is the enxt step darling. Thats showing lack of respect towards YOU and your un born child. Thats disgusting, sorry.

gal i dont mean to be mean but he kneeds to grow up be a man he bowt to be a dady dont stress k it not your fault man let that gal know that hes your man an he gona b adaddy she wil run miles is he worth it yes he your baby dady .. but do you derseve this hell no he kneeds to be kicked into shape

You definitely have a right to be upset. Talk to him about it, don't stress yourself about it because you don't need stress.

GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE IN MY EYES

HE'S CHEATING IN HIS MIND

NOT GOOD

DO NOT LET THIS GO ON

CONFRONT AND LET GO

OR STAY AND WORK IT OUT

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