Husbands friend living with us has lived with us for free for .....?

Sounds like this guy is coming between you and your husband, and is affecting the state of your marriage.

You should sit down with your husband and ask that he give the guy a time line(6 more months for example) AND ask that he help out now that he is working. If your husband won't do it, then you do it, and if he can't live up to it, then it's time for him to find somewhere else to crash.

There is nothing wrong with helping someone get on his/her feet, but not at the expense of You, and your marriage.

I can't believe you've been so nice up to this point! The friend sounds like a deadbeat who should totally be kicked to the curb. If this is the whole story, then your husband is totally in the wrong too and should not be getting nasty with you.

I'd say to your husband that his friend can stay a little longer, but you want to set a date for when he leaves. Maybe 2 weeks from now....but then that's it and give some ultimatum.

This is long time and you need your own space with your husband, and this person is not paying anything to you Talk to your husband and ask how he would like it if his in laws decided to do what his friend is doing. That should scare most men. Your husbands friend needs to get out. If he doesn't respect your feelings you really need to put a stop to that immediately. This friend sounds like a horrible influence.

Also you can talk to this person and say hey how long you are going to stay here with us and tell how much you are spending in your home.

I can't believe you let this go this far. I was in similar situation yrs ago.I was married and raising 5 kids so budget was kinda tight.I told my husband what I was going to do, didn't ask him about his approval .I told him "you have one week to get the hell out my house"! He was gone by the next day.

That's what I would do...if your husband gets on the way..then you can tell him too..go live with him trust me your husband won't leave you..but at least he get the point that you are not kidding and mean business.. People like this guy after 3 months needs or have to be kicked out!!!

Talk to your husband and ask how he would like it if his in laws decided to do what his friend is doing. That should scare most men. Your husbands friend needs to get out. If he doesn't respect your feelings you really need to put a stop to that immediately. This friend sounds like a horrible influence.

Years ago I had a friend of mine stay and just like this guy he abused the privilege. My wife had put up with it for my sake but there comes a point when that person has to move on and that guy has to go. Tell your husband that enough is enough and that if he doesn't go you will. Don't just say it mean it.

Your husband is a jerk, the friend might even be paying him and he is keeping it from you. Also sounds like you pay the bills and your husband is a bum so he doesn't care, leave the house.

I let a friend stay with me and my marriage suffered. I wasn't happy with her and having a friend there made me feel better.

Now I am divorced and my daughter who was conceived during looks a hell of alot like my ex friend!

I'd ask ur hubby if he wants to make love to his friend....and then tell him he better cause ur not given him anything until his friend is gone

i suggest you go on vacation with some girl pals of yours and leave the idiots to it ,and tell them you,ll be back when the freeloader has gone.