Ah! Terribly Gender confused! ...But what's new, right?

You sound almost EXACTLY like me...well, minus the sleeping with a guy thing...but, actually you sound like my friend Dylan. He's female to male transsexual and gay. He likes guys, but he was born female. He loves living in androgeny world and strives to look "femininly masculine".

There ARE gay transmen and it's not that hard to understand if you understand the difference between sexual orientation and gender identity.

I also was going to comment on this: I'm a transman and even *I* don't want the full sex change. Mostly because I'm not satisfied with the level of results at this point. But I pack a prosthetic penis that I can even urinate from. I've done the pumping thing too. I do want chest surgery eventually though, but like you, I was born with very little. It doesn't mean that you can't still be transsexual or transgendered.

I would say you could be transgendered. If you want to have surgery on your chest, down below, or to take hormones to lower your voice and become male in appearance and muscle mass and body structure and all that, then I'd say you're probably more transsexual.

Or..you might just like playing with gender. I know a lot of people that live in an androgenous world and love it. I also have friends that prefer the term "genderqueer".

I have the same problem as you, but I am a lesbian

I wouldn't mind being a guy but at times I still love being a girl.....

I would say wait and think more about it; you wouldn't want to go through a sex change and then regret it afterwards because once you do that final surgery, there's no going back.....

Maybe you're just bisexual, I have a friend whose a complete tomboy but she's bisexual and she does date guys......

Keep your hopes up =D things will get better

good luck

ps. the reason I say think is because I want you to be sure of who you are, I can't tell you what gender you should be only you can answer that question. I am choosing to wait till I'm a bit older to decide whether I want to be female or male but for now I am just a feminine butch.......

That is probably the best answer I can give you......

I really dont know what kind of answer you are looking for.

You seem to be a masculine female with bisexual tendancies.

Is this normal? For you it is. For others, no, but what is normal for all people, almost nothing at all.

If you fear that no men will be attracted to you, it is clear that you are attracted to men, but you also are attracted to women. So it is clear you are sexually attracted to both genders, hence bisexual.

If you choose to mimic masculine characteristics, small waist, small breasts, muscles, it MAY turn off some men, but it may attract others. The variety of sexual turn ons and fetishes is immense. So, if you do want to be with a man there is a man out there for you, more like 10s of thousands of men for you. If you choose to be with a woman, there are 10s of thousands of women that would like to be with you. So the best bet is to be who you are and dont be false. Most men, I am a man, so I know us best, might say they want this or that with a woman, but we really dont know what we want and when we get what we think we want, chances are we dont really want it anyway.

and um, dont mess with your clit. you could regret it later. And talk to people that are in the same situation. Try a group from here

http://www.google.com/Top/Society/Gay,_Lesbian,_an...

Most of all just live your life. Sexuality in any form is just a small part of life.

Don't worry. This is much easier than it seems. You are transgendered. There is a difference between Transgendered and Transsexual. Transgendered people don't necessarily feel the need to have SRS (sex reassignment surgery). They can feel like themselves simply by dressing as the gender they feel they are, and often doing things particular to that gender. It is very common, though not exclusive, for transgendered people to be bisexual. It sounds to me like you are bisexual, but possibly tend to favor men more sexually. Nothing at all alien about you.

I'm sure Lou and Fukitol will soon arrive to the rescue, but let me say that yes, you can be transgender F2M and be gay as a man. I'd say dress fashionably as a man to your hearts content and do a little soul-searching. If you're a man, you can never get away from needing to be a man. I certainly wouldn't be happy as a male! So good luck... I hope your path is an easy one. XX-M

Sugar , there is someone out there wondering why he likes tomboys instead of fems. Luckily, it is a great time to be andro, nobody really cares. You are not alone at all, just feels that way I'm sure. Keep your head up and be proud of at least knowing what you feel, there are some confused kids out there. Don't know whether bi gay straight or what. Stick to you beliefs, you will be OK.

As an androgynous male i am compassionate to your situation.i am a male in every sense of the word while acknowledging traits that some unenlightened individuals would consider feminine.This simply makes me more rounded as a human and has little to do with my hetero preference.

Good luck with your decision.You do have the option of exploring bisexuality to see which you prefer.

i think youre a transfag but a queer one not a transsexual man. thats cool, but you might find your dating pool shrinks dramatically because most men attracted to the female body want someone feminine.

but there is hope. if you like guys, you might find other FTM transsexual guys really, really like you. seeing youre saying that you like girls i reckon theres something in it for you.

i also think as youre still young you might be FTM but scared. anyway, give yourself time, go hang out with the queer community, and enjoy yourself. make some ftm friends and queer friends and see how they live their lives and inspiration should come to you..

this is a very common feeling i remember when i went threw it.

you might be a tomboy and there is nothing wrong with that because it happened to me too

im not a tomboy any more but i definatly know how you feel.

heyy as long as you dont have a penis your a girl for sure.

but just be who you are and dont worry about the gender thing because you can hang out with all guys play guys sports and still be completly female.

i hope i helped!!

The big question is do you still like guys.