I have a serious sex question?

I would just get used to it. What's wrong with her making the first move all the time? Cmon, it's less effort for you and it's the same sex.

Most men like it when their mate makes the first move, at least once in a while. Personally, I like it more when the man makes the moves, but I understand that some, not all, some men like to feel like you want them bad enough to make the first move. I say when you want it go for it!!

If your both willing to engage in sex, what does it matter, who goes first, love is not a point scoring game.I find men want sex all the time, and we generally have to go along with them in order to keep the peace, if not we are in deep ****, we are the uncaring ones.

because most wives have "headaches" most of the time and therefore the husband usually gives up asking thus causing the whole gotta go after what u want dilemma for the woman.

is that answer as confusing as ur question?

It's like dancing, sometimes your partner wants to lead and sometimes she wants you to lead. Usually one has preferences, which is why you "ask" the other in the first place. Forget about the rules of conduct, just concentrate on giving instead of receiving and things will work out in the end.

Say WHAT??????

Let me understand, if a woman wants it, she should not have to bother starting it because her husband should always be trying to start it and he will get it when she is ready and get turned down other times? Is that correct?

I am reminded EVERY day why I married a Ukrainian woman!

If you want sex with your husband, start it up! What's the problem? And why would you turn him down ( a lot) and then expect him to start it up when you are ready? This is silly.

I never get turned down and she starts it as much as I do. And she doesn't complain about it either. OMG!

Ha! My husband is welcome to "ravage" as needed. Most of the time if I don't make the first move- he doesn't either. It's a ladies way of politely telling her husband "i want you" guys are a little more blunt.

i think both of you have an equal right to express the need for sex. And you shouldn't feel dumb if she shoots you down. Maybe her sex drive isn't as hot as yours, but belive me she appreciates you trying. It's when my husband stops trying that i think something is wrong lol

It's my experience that men don't want sex as much as I do. So...so much for men being ready and willing all the time.

Not that I understood your question anyway...

Not all wives turn their husbands down.