Housing Solution in a Divorce?

I've actually heard of people doing this before. Just talk to the lawyer about it but I don't think there are any legal issues at all.

I understand what you intend by having a person that you know be your room mate, but I really don't think it should be an ex.

I have been in your shoes and done that.

It did NOT work out.

The first time one of you brings home a potential boyfriend/girlfriend you will understand what I mean.

It was a disaster.

I know that both of you can find other room mates that will be understanding of the kids.

I also would suggest you try having the kids all together all the time, either at one house or the other.

I ended up having the kids on a year by year swap.

Having them for a whole school year seemed to keep them grounded and not torn on which friends they had to keep.

We also stayed in the same school district so the kids could keep going to the same school, no matter what parent they were with.

I am sorry you and your ex were not able to work it out, but a clean break is the best for everyone.... trust me.

Spanky

That's actually really cool. I like the idea. The only thing I can see as a potential problem, would be if one of you started seeing someone else. There may be things laying around the house or the apartment, since you'll be sharing both, and it might cause some resentment later on. Other than that, I think you've come up with a really unique & adult way of handling the problem. Best of luck!

You know, I read a book one time where the judge actually ordered this and that couple ended up working their differences out by realizing they really wanted to be together but needed some space. Their relationship was so much better after that. I'm not saying that's what you want since you didn't give any reasons for divorce, but this may work out for the best of everybody. Good luck!!!! I hope things work out

I have heard of other people doing this. It is a very viable way to keep stability in your kid's lives and certainly would keep costs down.

The only thing about this that concerns me is the emotional side of getting on with your own lives. If you want to develop new social lives, date and so on this kind of situation may hold you back. You may also be seen by anyone who enters yours or your husband's lives as still attached, be it true or not. Eventually you are going to want to have that aspect of your lives again. If you are living like this, it may hold you back from doing so, or from someone wanting to be a part of your life (even a very secure and understanding person).

I dated a woman who lived in an apartment complex whose exhusband lived in the building across the courtyard. They had a young daughter. My practical side felt that this was a great idea because they could keep in constant communication for their daughter. However, I felt strange knowing he had a key to her place, could come over any time, and so on held me back from wanting to be a part of this. It was just a little too cozy for my liking.

These are just my thoughts.

I'm not sure of the legality of your solution, but it sounds like a great idea to me. Not so much because it will help you and your husband financially but because the children would not be uprooted. They need the stability now more than ever.

I hope your plan works!

As long as you are both amicable to the arrangement, there should be no problem. But I would get everything down in writing...i.e. that you are both agreeing to this arrangement, so that there are no possible negative ramifications. Lay down exactly what is expected from both parties.

How are you going to afford the mortgage and the utilties, plus an apartment and utitlies. Financial I don't think it will work. If it does, then best wishes to the both of you.

I think in your case and the unique relationship that you have, it is the best possible solution for you and the kids. Good luck.

In a perfect world that would work

but just one little argument the kind that led to divorce might not be good