Has anyone ever hated their spouse so much you wish him dead everytime?

Yes! I had a husband who beat me and would twist the words in the bible for his benefit. I hated him for a long time and wanted either for him to die or me to die just so I didn't have to put up with it anymore.

Now, I have finally rid myself of him. My children are happier and healthy, I went back to school and got my Masters degree and I have actually (with time and LOTS of prayer) been able to find true forgiveness in my heart for him.

What you have to do since you have decided to stay, is change your attitude. Find things outside of him that give you happiness and bring comfort. Enjoy your kids and find inner peace. This will do one of two things, he will either see that you would be able to make it without him because your happiness doesn't depend on what he does, OR he will treat you worse. At any rate if you decide to stay and he ups the ante, you have to be willing to do the same with your attitude being different.

Hope this helps.

Be safe!

If you are wishing him death. Then you can make it as if he were dead. Move on and find every avenue to care for you and your kids. You say that you wish him dead. That says that you hate him. You say that he uses the money to keep you under his thumb, then he's doing limited things for you. You say that he thinks he's God gift to you all, show him that you can make it on your own. What's better. The limited amount of care and love that he give you all? or the freedom and love that you can give each other without him. Trust me... the kids can feel what you are going thru. Plus, he thinks, he's got you where he wants you. Take child support out on him, find a lawyer that will have him to move out and pay the mortgage. There's ways around an a$$hole.

If you knew what he was like in the first place before you got married, then why did you get married and bring children into this world with him in the first place??

Honey, nothing is impossible, divorce is possible, you can even go to your local woman's shelter and on certain days they have attorneys that can offer you free advice even for divorces and if you do not have enough money, they will make payment options for you.

If you are so unhappy, then leave, go to a woman's shelter, they will help you and help you find a job and help you get on your feet to support you and your children and they will keep him away!!!!

Child support???? Oh, they WILL find him!!!!!!!!

Be a hero to you and your children and get out when he is not home!!!

In matters of the heart, the children always suffer!

I hate my ex and do wish he was dead. His being difficult and does not help with our child. He pays me $12.70 a fortnight for child support. He cannot hold a job for long and is a 25 year old boy who still lives with his parents.

I do understand what your saying about not being able to support your kids financially on your own but you also know that his using his financial position to keep you all under his thumb. There are welfare agencies that can help you. You can go back to work if you really wanted to or take up a course that could help your career. You need to show your kids that when they are adults, they shouldn't have to rely on anyone else to provide for them. Teach them to stay in school to get an education and they can provide for themselves when they are adults. It sounds like you also know the risk that one day he could kick you and your kids out and return back to his parents. You need to provide a stable and secure relationship and home for your children. No one said it is going to be easy but think of your kids.

You didn't mention anything about your family or friends. This is when you need their support the most. Don't be afraid to admit and ask for their help.

I wished my Father dead on a daily basis . . . just for my Mom. How is divorce not an option. When my Mom went through it, her lawyer put a lien on the house to get paid in the end instead of being paid up front. There's always a solution.

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Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better. But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction. So don't ignore your ex texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can't even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show your ex girlfriend that your happiness isn't dependent on being with her

I know exactly what you are going through because I am in the same situation. My husband won't buy the kids anything. I do work, but by the time I pay the bills and buy the kids their items, I am unable to financially support them by myself. I do hope that thing get better between you guys.

im not married but i kind of have a similar situation. i have 2 kids and my kids dad broke up with me. long story short he doesnt help me, visit or call. nothing barely sees his kids. before i used to talk to him but now its just really hurting my feelings bad i dont even want to be in the same presences as him i dont like him. i hate him. its like if i see him i wanna claw his face off his head. he broke my heart and hurt my feelings in many occassions. one time he came over to pick up a video game he lefted at my house. and my oldest son which is 3 said to my dad look thats my daddy. my daddy come to see me. all he did was walk in grabbed his game then lefted did even hug his kids or say hi to him. broke my heart my son was so excited to see him but he didnt give a **** little things like that just kill me inside. i dont know what id did to deserve this. he was my first boyfriend i learned my mistake. so i know what you mean. guys will be guys and they will never change.

i can live without ever seeing or hearing about him again. my kids deserve better. i love my kids and thats all that counts. you can get help move in with family. and get a job do something so u can get back on your feet. you dont need him. even if your married just dont live with him.

What would need to happen so you were not upset by his behavior, but at the same time did not agree with it at all? He sounds like he knows how to upset you. You cannot change him but you can stop reacting to his behavior so you get upset all the time. When you have done that you may have some solutions that you are willing to use.

try to be more feminine and maybe more worthy in bed, you would be surprise how kynd a sexualy satisfied man can be. If you gained weight I sugest imediatly stop overfeeding yourself and sart working out and running...If yu already tryied than get a job and make some money, secretly if possible, without him knowing, stay low and take the shhit for another year until you get financialy secure and than dump his ***. If you realy think you have done everything humany possible to save teh marriage and he is still making you mizirable that thats your option. Dont have a contract on his head, the kids will hate later for it. Remember you married this guy so at some point he was an wonderful man......Or you just wanted a husband like most of the silly girls outhere????