why would someone want to be with someone they have to sneek around to be with?

One or both have an insecurity about themselves and or the relationship. It seems to be a low-self esteem issue to me. One thinks its gives them a "boost" to just settle for little time here, out of the way rendezvouses, and that they actually have something with the other. While the other gets sort of the best of both worlds. Their "secret" and their regular life without anyone knowing different. Which is wrong on both and for both. It is done all of the time and we are all prone to doing it at some point in our lives. The real question is, "Are we strong enough to overcome it?"

what do you mean sneek around ? like cheating or sneaking from the family that they are with someone?

well... i'm partly in the closet to some of my extended family. my girl lives next door to one of my aunts. so. every time i go around, i have to sneak in and out so they don't see me too often at my "friend's" house!

it isn't always fun - but i love my girl to bits and pieces and wouldn't have it any other way, and either would she.

the ramifications of certain members of my extended family finding out would really hurt others in my immediate family so its definitely worthwhile having to sneak around for a little while to keep the peace...

in terms of others having affairs or the like, now that i can't understand, but i'm assuming as you've posted under glbt that i've come close to answering ur question!

Some people like the idea of a suspenseful thrill and see that as such.

Different things arouse different people, really.

I, personally, don't care for the idea.

Yeah, seems funny

its obvious, they cant be seen. or they just enjoy the thrill being sneaky and secrettive?