my cousin is having a serious problem with?

Playmate.... This is either your dads or mothers sister we're talking about. In either case you and your cousin should be able to talk to them ,and have them help figure out what is going on before someone gets into a situation they can,t get out of. Is there drugs involved on the parents behalf? It takes two to fight, and something isn't adding up. Convince your cousin to talk to your parents. Prevention is needed. Good Luck! I will keep all in prayer.

Little one I am not sure there is a right answer for this problem. The acts that you are describing should be reported to someone, but in doing this you are going to cause some very big changes. Those changes could take your cousin out of your life for a very long time. I think what you are doing is a good though, I am very glad that your cousin has someone that Loves her and is there for her. The question for you is do you Love her enough to do what is best for her even if she does not want you to?

I pray that you will find the "right" thing to do and that when you do you have the strength to act on it at any cost.

If you are not comfortable talking to your Mom about it then speak to a teacher at school. They will have to contact child services and everything can be done anonymously. Nobody would have to know that you told. There could be a lot of reasons why her mother can't control her angry and if an outside authority steps in her mother may get the help she needs. I'm sure she loves her daughter and doesn't want to hurt her but for some reason she can't control herself. Perhaps there is a substance abuse problem.Tell someone, you are to young to carry this burden. You need to pass this off to an adult and continue to be a friend to your cousin.

Please please please get your mom and/or dad involved!

It's time for that.

You don't mention if your aunt is a sister to your father or mother, but that only matters if you think one can approach this Mom better than the other one.

Next time your cousin is over and she tells you something like this, encourage her to go talk to your parents WITH you.

If she is being battered around, it absolutely HAS to stop. At 12 years old, it is possible that she may exaggerate a bit, but is she is bruised up, then there is obviously some abuse going on -- and better to get involved then to just listen and do nothing.

Think about it a bit first -- do YOU think you should say something to your folks first about your cousin and that you have suspicions about her being abused? Or, do you think it would be better if the two of you kids approach your parents together?

Good Luck -- Don't help her keep the 'secret' anymore, it's dangerous.

I'd call child and family services. I'd make an appointment with HER doctor and I'd go myself and tell him what I've seen and heard from her. No child deserves to be yelled at and beaten. Pushing her down the stairs is totally wrong! Are you sure she isn't making this up or exaggerating it? If she's telling you the truth her mom needs reported soon before something more serious happens.

Honestly I would report this, it may be hitting now but it can get worse and her mom could end up loosing her temper completly. You dont want your cousin to be in critical condition in the hospital or worse. I am sure it would be hard to one report your aunt, but two go back on your word saying that you are not going to tell anyone. But this little girl is 12 and she came to you for a reason. You need to be the adult in this situatuion, she may get mad at you for awhile but in the end she will thank you. But before you do this you need to get pics. of the bruises, cuts, etc.. so that you have record of it for the police.

Perhaps it may be a good idea to encourage your friend to phone or go see the child help line or advisory services - here is a search link for websites etc.

http://www.google.com/search?q=Child+help+line&rls...

Good wishes and encouragement to do the right thing for all concerned. It may be that Mum also needs encouraging to get help.

UPDATE http://www.childline.org.uk/

depends on how far you wish to get involved, take pictures of her bruises and wounds and call the police, they will start a pain staking investigation and most likly remand your friend in custody of Child Care Services.

What??? Her mom seriously does that? Does your cousin's dad know about it? you should let an adult know about this because they know what to do. You shouldn't be hiding this from your parents 'coz they know what is best. Hehehe

howz your relationship wid your mom??is she cool enough to confide in??if she is then tell her about it.Else tell anybody whom you can confide in..because a little girl cant go on like this.......dont your cousin have a dad??or grandparents??