Being understood and having understanding....?

I am aware that I will never be understood by people. Each life is affected by events that we have no control over. Those events mold each and everyone of us into who we are today. My life was of abuse, only a person who has been abused would understand me. There are a few that do, and I am okay with that. As a matter of fact, the less I am understood by others the better the world is. I have a huge obsession to understand others, and I am empathetic to them. I realize that no two people walked the same road, so one man trash may be another mans treasure. The fact remains, that I understand the pain no matter how big or small. People fail miserably at taking other people's situations into consideration. I would say only a few understand understand me, most do not understand me.

Being understood by others is not important to me at all. Except for my son. It is my duty to pass on to him all important things I´ve learned, so he not only has it easier but also knows which way to go.

If others do not listen to my advice or do not accept it, I know they will arrive at it through the hard way. Eventually. It has no effect on me. I did my part, now it´s up to other person to do something about it.

Deep inside me I know that I do understand others. Strangely enough I understand and accept it when people don´t want to understand and accept me.

I think being understood is the central goal of most human hearts and the lucky ones learn that the way to achieve it is to make an effort to understand others. That's certainly been the case in my life, anyway.

That would depend on if they were related or really had some kind of daily contact or close relationship with you,being over empathetic can cause projective identification,if you are looking for a reaction or what ever you are looking for?This is a question within a question within a question,too much for me to answer completely.

Question is very interesting and widens the horizons of philosophy. It is widely practiced in management . Once the individual in understanding, the MSG is communicated . The overall desire is - someone wants others to do the things - what he wants. So what are the ways to communicate to fulfill his desire for others to behave for the desired result is significant . The book of Del Carnegie - " How to make friends and Influence people" and " Positive Thinking" of Norman Vincent Pill are focusing theses area widely.

It is not important that others accept what you say, or that you accept what they say as long as you comprehend what you do not accept.

But the best way to be understood is to be clear with your grammar and syntax, even when speaking. Say what you mean; mean what you say. Say it simply as possible.

I am often challenged by others to explain myself better. When I discover I didn't explain myself well enough, I am often more fully understood.

Same with understanding others.

But if I do my best to be clear, and to get others to be clear, I am most certainly free to disagree or to be disagreed with.

That comes with understanding.

It is important to be understood by others and to understand them back.misunderstandings cause so many problems.It is important to communicate with other Humans which means you understand and are enlightened ,because of it !

An understanding is the limit of a conceptualization. To understand something is to have conceptualized it to a given measure.Yes that's important.

it is better to understand than to be understood

Can you rephase that? I haven't got a clue what you are talking about!