I need [non-judgemental] advice: Husband wants to start a porn website with his buddies?

I don't know. This is really tricky. If it were me I would say H*ll No! I think when you start mixing things like that into your relationship it can turn really ugly. I guess it really comes down to your relationship and how you feel about it over the long-run. While it may bring in extra income, you have to ask at what price? Plus there is always the chance that this will not turn out to be a profitable business for you.

And I agree that men will be men. I have no problem with my fiance "taking care of business" himself because it gives me a break sometimes, especially being pregnant, huge and tired. But to be running a porn BUSINESS is a different story. You have to realize that he will be around those girls. And while some women choose this lifestyle (porn) you have to question their morals. And while I don't care what another woman chooses to do with her body, I don't want her living that lifestyle around my husband. But again, this is just me personally.

Plus, what about the baby? Do you want your child brought up in the porn industry?

I hope everything works out for you. COngrats on your little baby! :)

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They are over-thinking things with the camera, lighting, etc. Some of the most successful porn sites on the internet are ones where a woman has a good quality webcam and is able to just load it directly onto the internet. That is the way most people make the most amount of money doing that. There's no need to buy all this stuff that he and his buddies are thinking of. You're exactly right in thinking they could lose money. They don't need to start out spending so much money. This is all just what I have heard by watching some documentary type shows on cable.

Now, if you're in any way worried about the women, I would tell him the ONLY way I would agree to it is if YOU can be the person who interacts with the women. That means, YOU call to schedule them. YOU make the appointments. YOU pay them. They have no reason to speak to the husbands that way. YOU take care of everything involved in communicating and organizing the women.

As for the PERSONAL part of this question....i.e. how it might affect your r'ship: I have to say I'd have a problem with my husband doing that. I don't have a problem with porn really but there's a huge difference in watching it and making it. I also agree that the timing of it all isn't ideal. I mean, he needs to be focused on preparing for your child...not thinking of how to make a porno movie. His priorities seem a little out of whack with that.

Here's what I suggest: I would sit him down and have a serious talk with him. I would tell him that you love him, support his dreams, and have full trust that he would never do anything to hurt you or his family. But tell him that you don't feel it's the right time for him to take the risk of starting a business when the baby is about to be born. Tell him it doesn't mean the end of his dream but just delaying it for a little while. Tell him having children should be the #1 focus and just ask that he make that the priority rather than his business. That way, you're not completely cutting off his dream...you're just bringing in a bit of reality and priorities. This will buy you some time.

Though some may view porn as unethical, I can only imagine there will be a huge ammount of money that can be made from this site if and when they create it. Think about it: Between regular subscriptions, and the money made from advertising (which is also a huge expense) there is potential to make a big profit. If you are not worried abotu him cheating, (and Just because a man directs porn doesn't automatically mean he will cheat) And you understand the process of how it's created, made, and his place in the process, and you are cooll with it, have him go for it. It may be very lucrative for you. However you are rigth in one thing. Porn sites ar a dime a dozen. He's have to find a niche that is either popular enough to draw customers, or one that is in high demand with low supply (like oil, too much demand but not enough to go around) if they play this smart they can make a profit. Running a bussiness is more than just putting it out there. Belive me, I've though myself about the porn industry as a good source of income (thought about , but never really intended to do it!) but then I realize how much goes into it and the potential porblems that can come from it, finacially. Your son, do what you can to not expose him to this at all. have him keep this type of work in the studio and not bring it home with him (not the women, the conversation)

Its another business and you must treat it as such. For that you need to have identified a market and produced a good business plan.

You are right that this is a huge and saturated industry and its a risk like any other.

The other question is that of wanting to be in an industry that can close a lot of doors against you.

Ask yourself about your future employment prospects if 'CEO of Porn Making Enterprise' appeared on a CV. Even if it didnt appear, there are a lot of people that will see the names on the film credits (which you might be legally obliged to publish)

Not sure Id want to go there....Good luck anyway.

I work for a large nationwide company that produces porn (no, I'm not a porn star either lol )... You are absolutely correct about the oversaturation of the market, and the fact that most smaller porn company's work never gets picked up en masse. This is definitely a losing venture, especially for someone new to the business. Even experienced people have a hard time being seen in this market, especially online. I cannot stress this enough... for the well being of your family, he should take his entrepreneurial spirit and try to find something less risky to spend your money on.

Is this the kind of world you want to enter your marriage and your new baby into? I hope that once the baby is born and you both look into his innocent eyes you will have a problem with contributing to the ugly side of our universe. In his eyes you will see so much love that you will want to help make the world a better place. I apologize if I sound like I'm judging you, but when you have a child you will resent anyone who will want to make the world smuttier. Sex is a beautiful act when it's between two committed people and although there are law abiding, good people watching it too, the porn industry is the gasoline that fuels all the sickos of society. You can't deny that.

Since you seem more comfortable with it than any other girl I have dated... then I can only say this. You both need to decide on how much money your going to invest and that is it. Nothing more, nothing less. Obviously, this is a decision the two of you will have to make because we don't know your finances. I do have to add that industry made over a billion dollars. I say go for it because they really could make money if they are smart with there marketing and the talent they get. If you are treating it like a business then you have to know how much your going to invest and stick to it. Once the money runs out your done! Best of luck.

i know how it feels to be the one to burst the bubble of some one eles dreams. Has he done a portfoilo to see what is earings could be. I will tell you this sex is a huge industry and its all the way he markets it. I do agree with the guy that said set a limit to the money. Id set a time to so he doesnt think he can keep wasteing his time. Its a big risk but hey it could pay off. I use to be a telephone sex operator you would think that with internet there is no need to pay 3.99 a min to talk to somone. But i made a fortune out of it. As long as there are horney men/ woman out there then there is a need.good luck

IT sounds innocent enough since he wants you involved. If he really is doing it for business reasons then you have no need to be jealous. Just budget out what you can spend on it and that's that. You would hate to be the one that stops him from doing it and then his friends go on to make a load of money and he's left out all because you didn't trust his judgment.