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What should I do? "Lesser of two evils" decision, please help!?
I'd been with this guy for 3 years. Ever since I met him I'd been happier than I've ever been. Only when we fought had there been speculation on whether I was happy because I loved him or because he came in and rescued me from a miserable life living paycheck to paycheck in an RV. I have this overwhelming feeling that I want him,love him and can't imagine living without him! It has nothing to do with our lifestyle. We broke up on the day we were getting evicted from our apartment. Things were the most stressful they'd ever been,as we had not quite enough for another place and the only option was for him to stay with friends who hated me and for me to stay with my mother,whom he and I both hate! I told him I felt abandoned and that started a huge fight,after which he maintained that he"needed a break",and he moved all his stuff out while I cried.
I felt I had no choice but to go to my mother's. Three days later he called me and said he was sorry and he wanted to get a place with me, and that really all along he'd been planning to come back for me at the last minute and help me move out and put us up in a hotel so I didn't have to get my mother involved. But during those three days her and her husband had(resentfully)helped me get my RV out of storage so I could live in it. They tell me now that if I get back together with him they will never help me out with anything again. I know this to be true because when mom couldn't handle me as a teenager she shipped me back to my abusive father!
I have no friends and nowhere else to go here,so I told him I'd move in with him,but not until I had enough money to live by myself,in case he were to put me in that situation again! We are both looking forward to it,and we've been talking on the phone,but it's going to be a few months until I can get enough money and in the meantime I have to live with these people I hate,and who don't want me here,and hold down a job or three as well. I can't stand being away from him;it's been three weeks and still I cry at night. But I shouldn't become dependant on him again, right?
Should I betray my mother,who has betrayed me before and will disown me,and go back to the love of my life and happiness,but not trusting him as much either? I was so happy with him and he wants me back so badly, but my head is filled with possible lies from my mother about how horrible he is...How often is it really the case that a mother,however bad,is the one who's wrong and the boyfriend is actually what's right for me? Anyone else had something like this happen?
Sorry this is so long but it's a complicated thing and I need advice! Thanks for reading. = )
4 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Dear, What you really, really need is to get away from BOTH those jerks. my advice? find the money, Find some new friends, Get some INDEPENDENCE. Start YOUR OWN life. Dont worry dear.
I know it might seem hard, but no one said that freedom would come easy.
You need to beleive in yourself, to beleive that you can live. There are other men out there dear, But how will you see them if you dont take a chance? How do you think that you cannot live alone without even trying?
For you honey, that would be the best thing to do. dont worry honey, everything will be all right.
- 1 decade ago
It seems most likely that your mother will continue to throw you under the bus. If I were in your situation I would probably stay at my mothers until I had enough saved up to move out, and continue putting away a little bit of money each check/month so that if things go awry with Mr. Perfect again, I'm not left stranded. Hopefully everything will work out between the two of you, but I think having a small safety net would be worth-while just incase.
- 1 decade ago
Maybe you should try to get your own place instead of with your boyfriend.That way you can continue to see him and to see if you two will get along.As for your mother I can't tell you what to do.Sounds like there are some issues there.Have you ever tried counseling?I hope your situation works out.
- 1 decade ago
boyfriends come &go,family is family,no matter what you cant do without your mum &will regret it if you go against her,just wait till you can afford to do your own thing &get settled,he only wants you back because he found it hard to get someone else,dont be fooled by him,you can do better.
