How can I spice up our relationship?

Its really not a matter of "spicing it up." Its more a matter of communicating with each other. This happens in all marraiges. Once you have a baby everything changes. I've been there before, and not just once. I've been married for almost 18 years, and have been in this situation 3 times. Marriage is like a whole other job. You have to keep working at all the time. In the beginning you have your job outside the house. Then you get married and this is your second job. Then you have a baby, your third job. Only the baby is now you 1st job and your outside job is your 2nd job and husband/marriage is your 3rd job. It sucks, but it happens. I almost walked out. But in the end, I had to look in heart to future. Almost to the end of that future. I had to ask myself, what do I see at the end when the kids are gone. Do I want to be alone? No, I didn't. I was feeling the was I was because I was lonely. Our lives were consumed with kids and work. Whenever I asked about going to dinner, I got "what about the kids?" When I asked about going to a movie I got, "what about the kids?" We never did anything as a couple anymore. I finally asked, "Do you want to be alone when kids grow up and move out? Because I don't. There's also no reason to be in lonely in marriage when I can be lonely and on my own." It was a wake up call not just for him, but for me too. I loved him but I didn't want to be alone anymore. and every so often this happens in a marriage. You have to talk to each, you have to have couple time. Little mini vacations just the two of you to reconnect.

It's quite easy really. Start doing some of the things you used to do to attract him, when you were dating.

Get your son minded, and go out on a date - it doesn't have to be expensive, but make it fun and romantic.

Let him know by your actions that you think he is sexy or handsome or however you would describe him. Gently rub his backside when you stand next to him. Give him a little shoulder massage when you can get behind the seat he is sitting on. Sit close to him while watching tv, put your hand on his leg - up high, and every so often just brush his member, but do it casually to promote interest. Lots of little things you can do. Try www.bringbackthespark.com - they have great ideas and suggestions for a healthy relationship, and it doesn’t cost much - it's well worth it if you value yours. A great relationship shapes the rest of your life. They will “hold your hand” while you rebuild the love and excitement in your relationship.

Plan time for each other on a daily basis. Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day and the couples that last are the ones that take time for each other and don’t make excuses.

When he is in the shower, jump in too. Lather him up all over, with lots of soap - do him thoroughly. Let him do you too.

Try a massage night. An all over nude massage (both of you) PRE-PLANNED for say Friday night promotes anticipation and is great fun on the night. Use lots of oil, lie on towels to stop any staining, and go for it - sex is a byproduct of all the fun. Make sure he massages you first - men can lose interest after ****ing due to loss of a chemical when ejaculating, it just happens. Let him do all the interesting bits. Good luck.

Find a family member who you trust, ask them to babysit overnight, and plan a small get-a-way for the two of you. Even if it's staying at a local hotel, its the alone time that you need. It's stressful when a child is introduced into the family, along with the issues of every day life. Often a love life can be put on the back burner because of this and you need a "reminder" of what it's all about. Plan ahead, think of some sexy ideas that would get him excited and into it. Most of all, have fun with it. Don't make it a formal occasion where the mood can be lost quickly. Good luck!

i am exactly in your situation... the only thing that helped me was my husband falling ill, and i had to take care of him for 8 days when he realized how much he loved me... i hope you dont have to do anything like that...

find some time for yourselves, apart from the time with your baby... do something "together" everyday... it could be as simple as going to the gym / if you cannot leave the baby with a baby sitter... you could just watch tv together after the baby goes to sleep... if you can leave the baby with a good friend / your parents you both could go for a vacation alone... that will help too...

its just that after some time of being married you take each other for granted and then you feel you dont love each other... but the fact is, that you are so close that there is absolutely nbo distance b etween the two of you...

all the best...

Look at yourself in the mirror and try to figure out if your looks now is the way it used to be before when you were still going out. Same to him. Someone's looks actually trigger our feelings as well. You just in the stage where you are bored and really looking out for something different but you couldn't just be fell out of love. Have him and you find some quality time alone and go out just by yourselves and dress up sexy, put some nice perfume and have him have a nice haircut. I hope it would help a little bit. goodluck

You definitely need to have real adult time. No baby, no family, just time to have an extended intimate experience. Check out sensual massage. There is nothing like a really long massage by your partner to build the relationship closer. there are lots of videos and books. Have Fun.

Everyone here has written some great advice and some wonderful things to do. Remember you have to work at keeping a marriage interesting, and it can be challenging to keep it fresh. Children change a couple's relationship, they add to it. Enjoy...

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massages definitely... get a couples massage to release tension.. and maybe a romantic dinner- even if it's not expensive... you can make anything romantic if you want. =)